My husband suggested a gender reversal role play the other night (ie I (a female) dress in the traditionally masculine way and he dress as a woman) - he seemed really nervous suggesting it. In the same night he asked me to paint his nails with clear polish - is this him exploring his gender expression? How seriously do I take this? What can I do to support him if this is the case without making him feel threatened? Also, would appreciate any help in how to think about this myself as I want cont.

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I want to be as supportive as possible of his journey but feel a little unsure of how to handle after 11 years of a hetero relationship

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It's possible (maybe even probable) that this is more of a kink than a deep seated expression of gender identity. I suggest reading some of Dan Savage's columns (or maybe even submitting your question to his column / podcast) to help understand what it means to be a GGG partner and how you can process your feelings and needs while still being a supporting partner. Good luck, hopefully this is a new chapter of fun and getting to know each other even better for the both of you.

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I think that you asking this question here is a very good sign. Unfortunately as you can
Imagine our industry lacks transgender representation so maybe seeking for more guidance with actual transgender people and listening to their stories might be more helpful.

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Everyone is all about gay pride until we start pushing gender binary boundaries. 😩

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Lol so being gay is equivalent to gender expression now?

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So I agree with PwC1 that trans is part of our community but many of us simple lgb’s don’t understand enough. And as more trans folk open up, we all need to learn and support.

If your husband is priming you for much more, if he is in fact a woman and intends to live that way, you have some challenging conversations ahead because of course you can be supportive but prefer to seek another relationship with a cis man.

But let’s not over-dramatise. He proposed a role play. He hopefully enjoyed it and he hopes you kind of like it too. Take it one slow step at a time. And one advantage: you absolutely have the right to propose your own role play too (on different days). Go wild 😈😈

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Wanting to do a role play can mean many things, doesn’t necessarily mean he’s trans or bi. He could just be having fun.

Just continue to be non-judgmental and supportive @OP as you have been doing. If you’re comfortable with it. These things take time so he’ll talk to you when he’s ready, if there’s anything he wants to talk about.

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Wait this is like a famous story - does anyone know what I’m talking about? OP isn’t alone on this and prob helps if we can find that true story for her

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He watched an adult film that turned him in and he wants to explore it. Don’t read too much into it

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