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@AD - A deeper layer of that is the expectations that are placed upon women and the way we are perceived when we push back.
Very smart to let yourself cool off. Sending good thoughts your way.
@OP it should be, but in my experience it’s not. Bros love bros, even if they don’t work hard (or in many cases, even if they barely work at all). Guys can get away with almost anything in this biz. It’s remarkable.
It's pretty obvious they like him more. Of course, they're all guys so I feel like they have that bond. But I'm a really hard worker and I do good work. Shouldn't that be more important?
@OP - He asked for a promotion. Or brought a counter offer to your CD. Or your CD casually mentioned he was ready for a bump, and your partner agreed. Probably at a bar when you weren’t present.
(There’s a million reasons why he wouldn’t admit this to you.)
Are you me?
I just can't help but wonder if it has to do with me being a woman. Even if my intuition is right and it is because I've been opinionated, when he has questioned things he has never been looked at as uncooperative. I just feel hurt.
@digitalaccountdirector1, no I have not, but neither did he. I'm going to ask about it in a few days when I'm not so emotionally charged.
Pushing back isn’t the same thing as being argumentative - of course you should voice opinions but how you do it matters as well. Have you built some strong relationships and created advocates for your work?
Did you ask for a promotion?
I’ve heard this a lot - not getting promoted because so-and-so disagrees with CD. Is it this a trend that we can’t disagree with our superiors??
How many Art Directors are there - and what did he get promoted to? I mean... not everybody can get promoted at the same time, but if you're sure he didn't even ask then it's a bit weird..
Another thought: if I had two people in my team, no matter when they started, I'd promote the one whom I like more (which includes being good at their job, questioning status quo and my decisions, etc.). And yet I'd never promote anybody without them asking for a promotion first.
While it’s entirely possible, I’d look inward first. Tenure doesn’t and shouldn’t correlate to upward movement. Your partner may simply be more talented or has progressed faster than you. It happens all the time. If you are giving your boss the impression you complain or lack energy... that’s definitely a strike against you. Ask for a formal review and work on measurable goals with your boss to get where you need to go.
I experienced something very similar. It totally sucks and I’m sorry it happened to you. My best advice? Start looking to get out and go somewhere else
Did your cw always agree to everything? :/
@cw1 he has disagreed with them, but it's never gotten personal. When I pushed back on an insanely tight timeline they said I simply didn't want to do the work. Uhg.
wow this happened to me EXACTLY. except we shared the same title. ugh