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My (male) director swears often and looks directly at me and apologizes for language when I'm only female in room full of males. Trust me sir, my delicate lady ears can handle. 🙄🙄🙄

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It's similar to calling someone sir or mam. Coming from the south, you say that to everyone you don't know or is in a position of authority. In the rest of the country it can rub people the wrong way; so I get what you're saying OP. I'll point out, it's actually done out of respect not so much just considering someone delicate. Y'all have to put up with us. We might as well acknowledge it. *Tips fedora*

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When I first made manager, I was reported to HR for that type of language by a female colleague. My partner at the time made it clear that I need to watch my language around females. I wasn't differentiating before, but I do now. That is anecdotal-- I understand, but there is always a double standard. Some people have differing views of equality based on their experiences. You judge someone for apologizing, I got in trouble for doing exactly what you would rather have me do(treat you like everyone else).

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Next time just respond, "don't worry about it motherfucker." Problem solved.

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He's just trying to be polite

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Bc women have a higher percentage chance of reporting someone to HR for a toxic environment. Just covering his ass.

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@BCG1 and that's polite in a personal setting if you're a traditional person, but it's sucks to be singled out for anything because you are a woman in a work setting, where we have to prove we can "hang" / are as tough as anyone in tiny ways every day

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Shit cock fuck! 🙎🏽 ... 👀

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Lol k. ^^

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Sorry OP that is super annoying. I'm pretty sure most lady 🐠 (me included) have had to deal with this - feeling singled out for being "a delicate female" - it's bullshit

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@SC gets it. My mother taught me a lot of things with good intentions, but I've learned to question them and apply appropriately.

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That's really nice of him.

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@Bcg Yeah but why does being polite translate to engaging in certain banter according to the gender in the room. I get the notion and I'm not offended or anything, just annoyed.

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Lol k. ^^

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I don't assume you're delicate, my mother just taught me not to swear around women...

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Ive definitely had men do the same around me. They mean well but it does make me feel like they can't be themselves around me which is disappointing and often limits the relationship. and sometimes makes me feel as though I need to 'prove I can hang' as someone else mentioned.

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It is a southern/midwestern thing

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Blame your fellow women, not the men forced to behave this way because of them.

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^ fair point!

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@BCBG2 thanks for making me tear up at work. #sapforcommercials

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https://youtu.be/G6u10YPk_34

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What would be more polite would be not swearing at all...

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