Depression/Anxiety Talk

My mom was just diagnosed with cancer. I’m numb right now and don’t think I’m ready for what’s to come. Don’t know the severity right now, but anyone have tips on how to deal?

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Just take some time to breathe. You’ll be in shock for a bit. The stage, severity and treatment plan will really be determinant of your overall feelings and journey though. Stay optimistic until you learn more specific details. We have SO many more cancer treatments these days and success with cancers. And breakthroughs keep coming every day - seriously it’s like the golden age of cancer treatment breakthrough. There is lots of good news for your mom. I have two very close friends diagnosed w cancer this year. One is my mom’s age and it was an aggressive breast cancer also in the lymph node. But guess what? Breast cancer treatment has come a long way. She’s not done yet w chemo but they did some chemo and radiation before her mastectomy and all the tumors were dead before even the next round of chemo. So that’s great news! It of course sucks to go through the process but we’ve all known she was very likely to survive and hit remission, even being a late stage 3. There is much to be optimistic about. My other friend is only 29 w a very rare sarcoma. It’s been a long road, still early. It’s a cancer that nearly always shows up in children and it’s in her jaw so she had an invasive surgery to remove it. But guess what they think they got it all and chemo and radiation have not been too bad for her at all - many complain of nausea but for her it’s been fairly smooth sailing. My point is is that cancer treatment has gotten so much better in recent years and there is much to have hope and optimism about. It is a shock and a journey will be involved but my hope for your family is that it will be a fairly smooth and short journey to remission! It might be too - wait to despair too much until you understand the type of cancer and the stage, that’s the key part. It’s going to be ok. Your mom is a strong and amazing women and she has the strength to battle this. She’s lucky to have you

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It’s not religion. It’s the power of thoughts and visualizations.

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Sorry to hear OP. This is very sad and it’s going to take a lot of effort to deal. You have to take it one step at a time, and deal with the specifics of the type of cancer, the stage, and potential options. I have been through this and happy to talk. DM if you like. This is not an easy topic.

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Omg OP. I’ll pray for her! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

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I went through this, exactly one year and two weeks ago. My father had abnormal blood work and some swollen lymph nodes; they weren’t sure if it was leukemia or lymphoma, or what subtype. It took a few weeks for them to figure exactly which type it was (ended up being a rare type of lymphoma) and from there, it took another couple weeks for chemo treatment to begin. The process to fully diagnose it can take a bit of time, so be prepared for that. It doesn’t happen overnight (for some reason, this really surprised me), so there unfortunately may be a bit of anxious waiting. I understand the numbness you feel, the anxiety, the feeling of silence and the only thing you hear is the clock ticking by in your mind.... But this feeling, too, will pass. Your mom needs you now more than ever. I know it’s terrifying, but the only thing you can do is be patient and wait for the doctors to do more testing and investigation. Additionally, please do NOT try to be a detective like I did and google the different types of cancer that it might be, you might stumble upon information that you didn’t weren’t ready to see. Don’t hesitate to potentially schedule appointments to get second-opinions; don’t just jump into appointments at an oncologist that you/your mom don’t fully trust; and most of all, ask questions to your doctor. Be inquisitive, get as much information from the doctor as you can (once they hash out exactly the severity and subtype of cancer she has). And ask about the different treatment options too! There are so many different types of chemo out there - you’ll learn so much in the next several months, and you’ll see that there truly have been HUGE leaps in cancer treatment in the past 5, 10, 20 years. It’s crazy. As a bit of hope, this time last year we were anxiously waiting for more information about what type of lymphoma my dad had. We found out on 4/1 that it was stage 4 nodal marginal zone lymphoma, one of the rarest ones. Stage 4 sounded like a death sentence. He had his first chemo session the day after Easter. But by Labor Day, they found out he was in remission. No trace of the cancer was left in his body. Miracles do happen. All the best to you and your mom!

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So happy to hear he is in remission! Congratulations!

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Learn how to navigate the healthcare system. It will save money and stress. I am sorry op!

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So sorry to hear OP.

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Sorry to hear about this OP. As someone who has had to deal with this over the past 3.5 years all I can say is lean on your friends/family members and cherish every moment and every conversation with your mother. I sincerely hope she receives the needed treatment and is in remission ASAP.

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My mother was diagnosed with cancer years back as well. She’s still with us. I work primarily in oncology products. Please feel free to DM me if you want any questions you think I can help with answered in private. God bless you and your family.

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