My mother just had a mastectomy two days ago and she is feeling extremely fatigued. Anyone with similar experience can please share tips on how to overcome this? Thank you!

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She just had major surgery. I would think this is normal? Could also be the pain killers she is on.

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It’s not uncommon to not have too much appetite while on pain killers. I slept a lot after my surgeries. Everything gets discombobulated. As A2 mentioned - check the doctor’s orders as they should have given you post op instructions and what to expect. Make sure she stays hydrated.

Post-mastectomy fatigue sounds very normal. I had the surgery in 2016 so some of my recollection about fatigue vs. other things is fuzzy, but overall I found that following my doctors’ orders on drain management and starting the gentle mobility exercises to be the most important in the second week. Also, I took colace alongside opioid pain reliever because I had wicked constipation when my chemo port was placed and wanted to avoid a repeat. I also got up and moved daily starting around day 4 or 5. At day 3 I was still very much in my recliner and recovering and still taking pain medicine every few hours.

Is she concerned? Does she have a post-op visit scheduled with her plastic or breast surgeon? Perhaps a call or telemedicine visit into them or the nurse navigator will help her determine what’s to be expected for her specific health situation.

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Thanks A2. She is scared to take her bandages off and doesn’t want to look at it. So she hasnt showered yet. Just a sponge bath

Hugs OP, and to your mom as well. It gets so much better than the first few days after surgery, I promise.

Please let me know if there’s anything else I can do to help you. I can’t receive DM’s because I got into a DM argument with someone and lost my privileges, but happy to help out here however I can.

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Thank you A2. We are waiting for the final path report which will determine the need for chemo/radiation.

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