My mother passed away this week and I’m devastated. Has anyone been through this? Does it ever get better?

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First off, my condolences. I hope the best for you.

Better isn't the word I would use, but it does become more manageable. There is no learning curve for death, just like their is no learning curve for losing a limb. It's just a void to adapt to. Getting over loss is a blunt affair and you can't rush the healing of the wound.

If you feel completely devastated, almost inescapably so, that's normal. Sorrow and anger are part of the healing process, but are not excuses to inflict pain on others. Something I struggled with. The whole thing is super personal and you're going to find out alot about yourself. It will take time, most likely more than you want it to, so prepare for that.

Everything will be alright. Don't forget to take care of yourself and others. Your Mom probably touched many lives.

Hope this helps and take care.

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So sorry for your loss. It surely gets better as time goes by.

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Sorry for your loss. My mom who was the love of my life also passed away. She was all I had, so I fell your pain. I miss her every day and I full of regret. I wish I had done things differently and enjoyed more time and experiences with her. The saying you don't know what "you have until it is gone" is so true. In time the pain will get easier hang in there. I speak to my mother everyday and I buried her in a beautiful cemetery. I purchased a beautiful headstone with her picture on it and that helped me a great deal to heal. I often go to visit with her. If you need to cry..do it and do it often. If you need a glass of wine, have one. I pray all the tim and ask God to allow her to be in heaven with him. My mother was my rock. I'm all alone now and I grieve for her every day. Good luck to you, be strong your mother wants you to be happy and do well.

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You will heal. See a therapist. Mine passed away in 2011 and I still grieve for her. But I have moved forward. It’s what she would want me to do.

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I’m so sorry for your loss OP

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So sorry for your loss. I lost my mother 2.5 years ago very unexpectedly. Lots of random crying episodes and will very occasionally still happen. Not going to lie and say its easy but a lot of the sadness will pass over time. It will be somewhat tough for a little while until its a new normal. Take time to grieve and remember her. You will get through this!

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Sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself. Everything can wait.

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Went through that a few years ago, time is the best healer is all I can say.

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It happened to me three years ago, very touch but it gets better

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My dad passed away 2 years ago. I cried everyday multiple times a day for at least 6 months. Then it became once a day. Now it’s maybe once a week but I still think of him everyday and my heart strings are pulled.

It transformed what I want in life and who I want to be.

There’s a good post on reddit that talks about grief as a wave. It’s very accurate...you’ll be able to google it and find it easily.

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So sorry for your loss OP. Wish you strength during this difficult time.

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So sorry for your loss, thinking of you during this immeasurably difficult time 💓 hope you have good people in your life that can support you even in these moments

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Hey OP, my mom passed away last June (feels like yesterday) from cancer and it shook me. I was 24, and so confused and felt so lost and alone. I’m doing better now but please reach out if you need anything. It’s probably the absolute most hardest thing you’ll have to get through

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Op if you are wfh make sure to speak with friends in FaceTime or Zoom. I was distracted by work when Mom passed. Social contact is really important.

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I’m so sorry for your loss. I will pray for you.

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I’m sorry for your loss op. Please take care of yourself. 🤗

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Sending prayers your way, BCG.

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So sorry for your loss! It takes time but things will get better! Never quite the same but you will move forward. Sending prayers your way. 💕

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Sorry for your loss. I lost my dad in 2006; over time the loss lessens and you get a better appreciation of the good times together.

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