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My new coworker is getting in my personal space- at this point it looks like he does it to men and women, but the red flags are definitely going up for me. How do you shut down this behavior?

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I one time stood on a dude’s foot. Took a giant step BACKWARDS and motioned to the gap I made and said “PHYSICAL SPACE PLEASE"

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Tell them. Calm kind direct no mincing words and no "blaming". Tell the texter person, too. "Hey, I have a request. I don't text after hours / 8p.m. as that's reserved for personal / family time. Please reach out if you need me before that time. Thanks for understanding" In all boundaries setting initiatives - be clear, specific, kind, and SHORT. Do not explain do not ask if it's okay / frame in a non negotiable way. People are not mind readers so only judge after you've stated your needs and expectations 👊✊

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If it’s physical personal space, just say something directly. You don’t have to be mean, they may not realize they are doing it. For someone who texts at all hours, don’t reply. If you don’t set boundaries, people will continue.

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Be blunt and matter of fact. Hey there, you might not realize it, but you are invading my space pretty consistently and it makes me uncomfortable. I need you to stop.

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Thank you! Direct approach sounds like the best option.

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If you figure it out let me know. My new coworker texts me after hours (like 8-10 pm) for advice/complain everyday and it’s draining

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