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IMO, no. I used to think jokes were just for fun. But I learned at work that they often harbor some beliefs that impact decision-making on people. And if they’re not openly joking about their superiors, definitely watch out.
HR videos are useless. I learned from paying attention.
I'm from a minority (Latino) and I think most jokes are fine!
People have gotten waaaay too sensitive.
IMO, most stereotype jokes are like caricatures, but instead of highlighting distinctive physical attributes, they highlight distinctive funny human behaviors.
Sure, you can see a little bit of yourself in them, but you know they are not a true representation of reality. Obviously, there are offensive jokes that cross the line, but most of them are only a problem if you let them get to you in a personal level.
So, lighten up.
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You extrapolated a lot from that one statement.
How is constantly guessing someone's intent (hard to really know unless you're a mind-reader) rather than assessing impact on you (something that's easier to figure out as it pertains to ...yourself) lead to grudges and therefore a miserable life? Assessing how something affects you and then decide how to act is how I would hope people strive to live their lives. It's called self awareness.
Either way I think folks have given appropriate advice based on limited knowledge to either talk about it with manager, let it go, or look to work for another manager (if this is a pattern, things can add up).
I hope OP realizes their feelings about the joke are as valid as any other feelings one may have.
Micro aggressions are real and not acceptable in professional offices. If it bothers you, it bothers someone else too. There are great ways of shutting it down politely and publicly so that others can feel empowered to voice their discomfort in those situations.
Shutting down someone publicly is the definition of dick behavior. If you expect someone to respect you, you need to offer them the same respect in kind and work it out in private.
This is also a great way to give people a reason not to want to work with you.
No you are not
Not in the same not entirely, but my ECD has made some microaggressions. One of which was when I was the only POC on the call. I didn’t even realize it until a teammate pinged me afterward to apologize on his behalf.
You either have to talk to your manager or let this go. Nothing will change if you do nothing.
if you found it offensive or off-color OP, you are not being sensitive. If you’re comfortable doing so, I would raise it to your manager or any manager.
If you feel that they are not appropriate, that means they are not appropriate. Talk to your manager or if you don't feel comfortable, talk to your HR. You can start with light convo.. lay ground work (say it's yellow), then if it gets worse, say it's getting to orange or red/offensive. It's not going to stop if you don't put a stop to it.
You are not being sensitive unfortunately, today all jokes are offensive. People need to think first before they say something stupid. Also let them know how you feel. They will learn from that.
It doesn’t matter what the context of the joke is. It doesn’t matter if the other person is a minority. If a joke has to use a certain group to be funny, it’s problematic. Some racism/sexism jokes can seem like praising the repressed group on the surface, but it’s really enforcing another stereotype Or patronizing.
Bottom line, it is not ok.
I'm curious here: did the joke itself offend you? or is it just that a racial joke was told that offended you? I would say if the joke offended you, you should say something to your manager. I know I wouldn't want to offend anyone and if I did, I would like it brought to my attention. If you're offended because he told a racial joke but you weren't really offended by the joke, then I would say you're being a little over sensitive. Also, keep in mind that when your office says the "respect diversity" what they are really talking about is the company position. They can't control what people say. The can and probably will fire people that they believe crossed the line.
Not at all sensitive. Context doesn’t matter here.
Maybe you’re being too sensitive, maybe they were being racist. We have no context to really tell.
But ultimately, I think your rapport with that person is really what makes the difference here. Are you close? Is it okay to joke around with each other? But judging by how uncomfortable you feel, it sounds like you’re not close. You’re literally their direct report. So they should probably refrain from making controversial, or otherwise, potentially offensive jokes.
To me, this is one of those “You don’t even know me like that” situations lol if we really knew each other, we’d probably chuckle about it .. but since we don’t 🥴🥴
Lots of comments. Lots of takes. As long as you sense that your boss respects you, that’s what’s important. If you sense that your boss doesn’t really respect you, find one that does.
It’s definitely inappropriate. “Wow, if someone else heard that, they might think it was racist.”
Heck no you're not being too sensitive. That's ridiculous!