My parents & sister live in Florida. I live in the north. Parents & I hate sister's boyfriend (racist, unbearable). Sister invited boyfriends sister to thanksgiving with my parents. Boyfriends sister is even worse. Mom & dad told sister they were going to do their own thing for t-giving. Because mom and dad were going to be alone (they are old) I decided I would fly to Florida to spend thanksgiving with mom and dad. Sister is now furious with me that we are not having a big family t-gvng.

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What did I do wrong here? They had already decided they were doing their own thing.

I've previously spent a Christmas with my sister's boyfriend and his sister and it was awful and I refuse to repeat it.

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I think they should have been called out publicly. Racist remarks have no place around me. I might have have booted their butts!

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Nor am i, but come on! I don’t endorse spreading hate, in fact I’m just the opposite. Sounds like you are too.

Ugh, I’m sorry. I don’t have any advice but that whole situation sounds awful. Tbh, I would have spent the holiday with with them and then called them out every time they made a condescending, racist or stupid remark. I’m not above calling someone out even if it embarrasses them. They probably wouldn’t be back for the next holiday!

She just puts her head in the sand. They've been together 15 years. My sister is in her 50s and our parents are in their early 80s. The boyfriends parents arent around anymore. I'm a lot younger.

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