My partner is male, I am female. He condescends me on a daily basis, says I want to include females in campaigns to “fill a quota”, etc... Where do I begin. What’s the best strategy to deal with this?

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Find a new partner ASAP, that’s what I had to do when I had an awful partner who didn’t respect me. (Male CW/ female AD).

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"Fill a quota"??? Ugh. I'd say stats. 86% of purchases in America are made by women, who exactly does he think ads are talking to?

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Start looking for a partner regardless of whether he’s winning awards and let your CD know why. If he doesn’t respect you/women now, that’s not going to change. Also @SCW1, while I appreciate the insight, please be mindful that this is a bowl for women/those identifying as women. If you wish you to be in here as an observer, just take this time to listen and learn rather than post in here. Thanks! :)

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I apologize, I didn’t mean to sound antagonistic. I created this bowl, so occasionally I’ll try to make sure posts are on topic and discussions stay civil. This is a bowl specifically created as a safe space for women to share, and where we seek advice and support specifically from other women. Typically, we would post on the main feed if seeking anyone’s opinion in general. That being said, you are more than welcome here and I greatly appreciate you taking the time to read these perspectives!

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I completely disagree that men should not be reading, and when applicable, commenting in this bowl. I don't interpret the title of it nor the intention as excluding men explicitly. I see it as a bowl dedicated to women's issues. And I'm impressed there are men interested in reading it. Men have mothers, wives, daughters, sisters. Why wouldn't I want them to hear what we talk about and how we feel. It's the perfect way to educate and engage. I'm a white immigrat woman in the U.S. I care about many topics and issues and I have all sorts of people dear to me in my life. I follow the minorities bowl for this reason.

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CW2 didn’t know there was a 🐠 police.....btw I’m a woman. 🤔

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@CW2 this is my first time ever posting in this bowl, felt it was appropriate since she is a female with a male partner. I respectfully disagree that when appropriate I should feel like I’m not allowed to offer insight to someone seeking advice.

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It's always shocking to me when I hear about a non-supportive creative partner just because it's so important for us to respect and support each other as teammates. My knee-jerk reaction is to tell you to get a new partner and/or talk to your manager. But honestly, it's not easy to just switch partners right away and your manager might not be able to do much if your partner isn't being totally egregious (the example you gave, while totally annoying, isn't exactly earth-shattering). So until you can make a change, i think you need to confront your partner. Part of his job is to collaborate with you so you two can be successful as a team. He is your equal. If he condescends you, call him out to his face. Be direct and make it clear that the way he is acting is a problem and that he is negatively affecting the work and your team dynamic.

Hopefully you can eventually get a new partner, but until that point, let him know that you won't put up with any of his shit. Sometimes we have to create our own boundaries and let those around us know what we will and won't tolerate. I also think that it will be good for you to stand up to him. I hate that you have to deal with this, but use it as an opportunity to assert yourself and learn from confronting a difficult situation.

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I think there is some importance in listening and learning to women in this bowl. There are some key takeaways and insights in here that I believe many men are oblivious to/unaware of, and because women may typically feel less comfortable and welcome to share their opinions in their own offices, this provides an open place for them to share. If men are in this bowl to gain perspective and say “Wow, I never even thought of that, let me take that insight to my own agency,” then my hope is that we can create a more equal working environment together. Just like how Sheryl Sandberg pushes men to read “Lean In” as well. I too follow the Minorities in Marketing bowl simply to read what conversations and concerns are important to people of color and how taking those into consideration can shape a better industry for all of us. That being said, I doubt that bowl was created for me to butt in my two cents as a white women; unless explicitly asked for it, in which case yes, the main feed would be a better place for that. For us, women are often given advice/lectures by men whether we ask for it or not, so this became a place for sharing and support for women by women, and a great sense of community grew from that. This is still my favorite bowl, and I want it to stay strong, so let’s keep it close to what made it special in the first place 👊

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Point him towards the research done by the Geena davis institute for gender in media. #facts

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I’m a male, I have a phenomenally talented female partner, that’s not normal. Unless he’s crapping gold Lions, start looking for a new partner.

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As men living with extreme privilege it’s hard for us to understand things any differently. And the notion that the world can be different than the one we were raised in is a hard pill to swallow. You can either suffer this guy and slowly and kindly educate him. Or you can choose to move on. You’re not responsible for his empathy and understanding. But he actually doesn’t understand and I’m sorry about that

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Know my opinion will not sway most of yours, but for what it’s worth, I appreciate men investing the time to hear what we have to say, and trying to be involved in the conversation *in a positive way*.

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Sorry your partner is a pecker.

I've enjoyed having male partners, but only if they understand the power in the dynamic.
Diverse ideas and stronger concerts

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Really, thank you all so much for the advice. I truly appreciate it the support.

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*Why* are there men in this bowl?! I’m speechless. If I want a man to view or reply to my post, I can easily post on the main feed.

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Your partner is clearly intimidated by women and that's his outlet for his own insecurities

Sorry. I won’t come back

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