My partner left the industry during the pandemic and I’ve been lost since. We worked together our entire careers, and I feel like since he left I haven’t come up with a single good idea or really cared about any projects. I know I wasn’t the reason he left, but I have imposter syndrome now. Did he carry us as a team? Am I good enough to do this without him? Do I care enough to do this on my own? How do you deal with losing a long-term partner who was half of your work life for years?

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Thats really sweet that you were so close. I hope you two are in touch as friends. Having a partner you really click with is special. This same thing has happened to me a couple of times. You’ll recover.

Maybe you switch jobs once or twice, maybe your current place hires a freelancer….but its like other relationships: you meet enough people, you’ll find a good one. You’re not an imposter, you’re just off your rhythm. It might take a little while, but I promise, you will love again 😀

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With gentleness, small steps, and non-linearly. I went through a creative split this year — and it’s taken a lot of time to re-orient: to myself + my own abilities/capacities/desires. I feel stronger now, but it was super confusing.

It might mean doing small (non-work) creative stuff that brings you joy and helps you connect to your intuition/spark again. Maybe exploring an entirely new skill you’ve wanted to try. Maybe journaling. Feeling, acknowledging, and processing all the waves of emotions — bc you are moving through an identity loss as well as an interpersonal loss. Maybe it’s also thinking about what kind of advice you’d give to a friend in your circumstance — and listening to that.

It may not feel like it now, but you will get through this! And you’ll come out with a clearer understanding of who you are and what you want.

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Think about supporting your family, paying the bills and saving for retirement. Try using those as reasons to care (a little more).

Idea-wise——you’ll be fine. Don’t overthink it. It’s just advertising. Have imposter syndrome in the medical field, not here. I promise you we won’t judge your less than great ideas.

You’ll have good ones though, don’t worry.

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I’ve had a few solid partners, over the years. What I distinctly remember though is each time I met them for the first time (often introduced through freelance without any foreknowledge) was how much I’d rather have been with the last one and then a week, a month, a day later, I realized it was a great new opportunity to fine tune how I worked.

You’ve clearly had a longer run but try and look at it as an opportunity to evolve.

And don’t worry about being an imposter. That both never quite goes away and also isn’t really important.

You’re not saving lives, you’re selling something and these days the value of what we do seems as heavily dependent on algorithms as it does the work.

Go easy on yourself.

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Is your agency finding you a new partner? If not, you should be asking them to.

I’ve had three copywriters throughout my career (I’m an AD). When the first two left (for another job and to travel) I was devastated. It felt like I a break up. Until I got a new partner who I loved even more. We’ve now worked together for many years, in agencies all over the world.

Point is, I’m still good friends with the first two but my career would never have been as successful or taken the path it did without my current writer.

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I’ll partner with you

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Find the strength within to continue pushing forward. When we face uncomfortable circumstances is when magic happens, when you see yourself being pushed to do it yourself and forced to learn new skills. Something good will come out from all of this, and you will get to the point where your path will be revealed to you and It will be clear as crystal.

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