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My partner who I report to asked if something was “wrong.” I have been unhappy but addressing them with the partner has been futile. She is a gaslighter. Do I tell partner how I feel or continue as is

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If you don’t trust her and don’t think she would fix anything, probably not much to gain by telling her. Or you could just say vaguely that there are some “personal things” going on, but you don’t expect it to affect your work.

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Yes I have - but trying not to be completely miserable while I have to be here which is becoming increasingly and continuously difficult.

I’ve been in your shoes (both in terms of unhappiness/burnout and the female partner gaslighter). Sadly, in my experience, trying to share with that person made things harder, and there was no way out but through, putting my head down, and doing what worked for me to the extent possible - meaning that I prioritized looking for jobs/interviewing over work many days and tried to cut myself slack, mentally and physically. I’m not sure what your personal support system is but I can’t recommend developing a good relationship with a trusted therapist enough; saved my life. Also wanted to let you know that after a year and a half struggling in the same place you’re in, I’m getting to the “through” so know that something better will come.

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What do you mean by gaslighter

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Someone who acts as though the very situation they put you in doesn’t exist, and even mocks you for it

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if she isn’t listening, don’t share. and i wouldn’t tell her there are issues—she’ll use that to torch your work.

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Based on the feedback here, guess I just need to try to act like everything is dandy until I can get out of here.

You have every right to be miserable but try really hard to focus on the good people and references you still have. That’s what will help you get through.

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Are you seriously thinking about quitting? If so, you could raise your concerns as a hail Mary, but it’s risky if it’s with someone you don’t trust to go to bat for you. I only confide in partners if there is an objectively serious issue going on, like a family emergency.

Would like to quit but don’t have an alternative lined up yet. Once I have alternative I plan on leaving.

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