My relationship triggers anxiety. I am not sure if it’s because I’m not in the right relationship or if I’m the issue. In a long distance relationship and if I can’t get in touch with my partner,

Long distance relationships are very difficult (I’m in one right now) and trust is very important, but I understand as well the fear due to unknown. As you are moving together in the next 6 months I would try to focus on that, ignoring what he is doing. If he decided to move with you I doubt he is cheating on you, it wouldn’t make much sense for him to make such big step if he doesn’t love you. You said that everything is ok when you are together, so it’s likely that this anxiety will disappear when you get to live together. Why don’t you try to open to him and explain that you feel anxious but it’s something that you can’t control and it’s not because you don’t trust him. This kind of problems should be resolved together. He doesn’t have to stop to go out but maybe he would keep you in the loop a little bit more, or don’t get upset when you get all anxious

Then I start feeling anxiety. This usually happens at night when he’s goes out with friends. Previously this happened when we used to fight and he would ignore for the night. I’m scared he’ll just walk out of my life and never come back and that’s it’s easy for him to walk away from me. My family has many bad marriages and I used to put thoughts in my head that he was cheating on me when he went out but I went to therapy last year and stopped doing that. Recently in the past 6 months though we got into a disagreement not a big argument and he went the rest of the day without texting me. I also didn’t reach out. He got very drunk and danced with a girl who he said kissed him before he knew what was happening. We went 5 days without talking until I reached out to him and he told me. Now when he goes out and doesn’t reply to me it been causing me to shake with anxiety and fear that he’s cheating on me. I feel stuck. That I can’t deal with the emotional burden of breaking up but at the same time I’m not in a great relationship. When we are together things are great and I do love him. We are moving together in 6 months but I’m scared he’s changing his whole life for someone who doesn’t trust him.