My roommates boyfriend is literally always here. I’m honestly getting really annoyed. Like he was here 4-6 days last week.

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Might be time to consider living without roommates.

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100% but lease is up in July

Tell her you will want to split the rent & expenses with him too if he’s there so often.

Other than thar I volunteer to be at your place 6 days a week pretending to be your BF. We can even have some pre-recorded moans to play at 3AM.

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Generous offer thank you.

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Are you more annoyed at her or his moans?

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Lol bedrooms aren’t on the same floor so I never hear moans

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Sounds like you get a decrease in your rent if they are always here keeping the microwave on high all the time.

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If he’s there more than 2 nights a week, he’s a roommate and should be paying.

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Maybe 3 nights if you’re being really generous, which I am not. But if they are routinely staying 3 nights and not contributing to the household, they are absolutely taking advantage.

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I had this problem when the pandemic began and my (then) roommate’s boyfriend was at our house 24/7. After a few weeks, I asked if he was planning on going home soon or if he was going to start paying rent. He and her immediately left and started staying at his place. Lmao

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Yeah wth does space have to do with it? No one splits the rent by square footage utilized per person. It’s rent divided by number of people housed as primary dwelling. If you’re there more than you are anywhere else, congrats, you’re a roommate.

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At this point, he’s your boyfriend too. 😂

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I just sucks because she’s my friend but it’s becoming excessive. I just feel like I can’t be comfortable in my home. Oh and lastly I don’t want his money then he would be here more and feel entitled to the space.

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If you’re not comfortable with him paying/staying, I’d instead ask to reduce to 1-2 nights a week or her going over to his parents’ or something more reasonable

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Sounds like you are looking to have your space back and not so much looking for him to take over some portion of the rent. How about asking him to take over your portion of the lease? You can then move out early to your own space and they can have a whole apartment to themselves.

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Have an honest conversation with your roommate/friend about how you are feeling. Ask her what she thinks the options would be, but make it clear (non confrontationally, if possible) that current setup is not working

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Walk naked around the house. She will make him leave asap 😂😂

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Sounds like you have two roommates.

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Hi Everyone! I have an update and I actually need help. My roommate (friend of 15 years) and I have two separate floors her floor has a separate exit so theoretically he could be here and I would never know. For this reason I was fine with him sleeping here as long as I didn’t see him however that has turned into him being here but not visible 4-6 days a week and 2 to 3 days a week of me seeing him in the common space. So on the days where I don’t see him he may be on her floor but working from home and he enters and exits through the back door. As I mentioned above last week I didn’t know he was in our home and he saw me in my towel which made me uncomfortable so we had a texting war and she said going forward she will make me aware of every time that he I will see him in our home and that the days I see him won’t exceed 2 to 3 days per week.  She made a point to mention that he doesn’t eat our groceries but didn’t say anything about rent, utilities, chores etc.

Then the other day I overheard her telling her sister that he was helping her pay for rent. I pay more to have a bigger room so effectively I could be paying 55% and them paying 22% each. I feel as if I’m being taken advantage of even more than before. What would everyone do in this situation?

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@EY3 if we split based on rooms they’d be paying ~$600 each and I would be paying $1525 I don’t think that’s right lol. Also, we’re all wfh and spend a good amount of time on the phone (and can hear each other) although separate, the spaces feel much closer than they are. She’s my friend so I feel obligated to be respectful of their relationship which means I’m cognizant of what I’m wearing/saying when he’s around that’s what I don’t like but she would be upset if I didn’t. Oh and lastly the chores. Neither one of them clean the shared bathroom much which is the biggest nuisance.

1) is the BF nice? Like do you enjoy his presence just in smaller doses?
2) can they go to his house?

If you don’t really care for him or the relationship with the room mate you could just say it’s overstepping you’re boundaries and you’d like them to figure something out. Otherwise I’d gently let your feelings be known and just hope they give you more space. It’s hard in quarantine - everyone’s feeling claustrophobic

Staycation once a month doesn’t really help me day to day though.

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Lease isn’t up for 6 months. I don’t think I can get through busy season like this. Send help. 😔

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