My short term goal is to get to $170,000 by the time I’m 30. That was my dads highest take home in his career in the US government when he retired at 65. I want to show him that he raised me right and that I owe everything to him. Am I am asshole for telling him that.

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Maybe set salary askde and just tell him how much you appreciate him.

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I just don’t like this. You’re kind of weird for saying that to him, wouldn’t quite call you an asshole, but I’m around your age, and I’d probably prefer if my future son just wanted to work hard and do well without trying to make explicitly clear to me that his goal was to beat me in my maximum salary by the time he’s 30.

Also, don’t get too cocky, I’ve seen people fall off, counting chickens before they hatch is another reason it’s a bit cringe. Your dad did quite well to still be earning at the age of 65, you might make it to 250k by the time you’re 33 then be making 0 at age 50, so it’s not really proving you outdid him anyway just to make a higher salary than him at 30 than he did at 65, especially considering how lacking in job security you are compared to how he was (consultant vs. government employee). When you’re 45 it’ll become clear whether you’ve actually surpassed him or not.

Friend of mine in big law was at over 200k at around age 25, lost that job, now he makes 70-80k at age 26.

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Parents will be happy for you and proud of you for your success, but secretly a little disappointed in themselves for not having been more successful as well. Don't do this. Don't make it about money. Hit the goal if you want, but quitely. Instead, talk to them and appreciate them for all they've done for you, taught you and fought to give you despite hardships. Find little ways of bringing up hard times in childhood and how you understand the situation better now that you are an adult and can understand better how hard it was for them. That's what parents want. Appreciation. Gratitude. A feeling from their children that they did the best they could to raise them well.
Bonus points for buying your parents something they skimped on while raising you, that they secretly always wanted. For my mom, that's monthly mani pedis and massages. For my dad, it was a luxury car.

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I’m 27 and 130

I wouldn’t tell him your salary unless he asks. I would start kicking him some cool stuff he wouldn’t get himself. Retirement watch. Car? Vacation?

My dad would hate that, just a note haha

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