My significant other just got promoted after working 1 year as a business analyst at a local firm and his salary is now way over mine. I’m an audit senior with 2 years experience. Now he logs off at 5:30 to go to gym while I’m working long hours and struggling every day. I know I should be happy for him and understand we’re just in different industries but still this makes me feel hopeless and unmotivated being in public accounting.

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Lol, don't take it out on your boyfriend. Take it against EY and their shitty unlimited PTO. Seems like this problem would be easily fixed by leaving the firm.

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Yeah but somewhere there is a teacher who makes less than you who works till midnight grading papers. Comparison is the enemy of happiness. Either enjoy your job, or change your circumstances (either by finding a new one, switching teams internally, switching to recruiting or some other group, or just setting better boundaries). But you should do those things for you, not because you see someone else being happier

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Pretty conceited to assume I did not understand the point just because I commented about one thing.

Stop working at 5:30 and go to the gym. Tell whoever you report to what is open and what you haven't done. Boundaries! I say that assuming you're not starting work at 10 each day

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this sounds nice in theory, but if I were to say that to my team, they would think I’m not being a team player or I’m slacking off. I start work at the same time like everyone else, I keep a list of my tasks and try to get done what I can. but I’m not a robot. I feel like it’s so ingrained in us that we shouldn’t tell anyone if we’re worn out for the fear that we don’t look like a team player. or they think the circumstances aren’t that bad to merit “setting boundaries”

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Where does he work? Sounds nice.

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What’s his salary compared to yours?

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These days PA is mostly a good way to gain experience and set yourself up for great exit opportunities. We are too underpaid and overworked for this to be our career forever, unless we have partnership aspirations. In that case, you are paying it forward to when you will make really good money as a partner.

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You know that you are forced to stay at EY or anywhere? If you stay, what are the pros and cons. If you take another job, what are the pros and cons. Think both short term and long term and make the best decision for yourself.

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where does he work?? for research purposes but also I totally feel the same way, that’s why I’m looking at other jobs

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Hope that motivates you to leave to something better. PA was good back then and has not evolved with the times. In fact I’d say it regressed given the increased workload due to technological synergies and compliance

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If you start from something else, sinking cost of 2 years is not that bad. I totally get you, my husband has less working years, but as SDE he earns like 3 times than I do and less hours.

I have the same issue, my husband is a software engineer and I’m a senior tax manager. Over the years the gap has become smaller, but I still work more for less money. My salary has been going up at a much more rapid pace than he has, and I’ll surpass him eventually. I understand that different industries pay differently based on labor economics. It is what it is, and it is not his fault. Comparing yourself and your pay to your partner can lead to trouble, I’d avoid worrying too much about it, or if you do care and don’t love your work, go into a career that is more lucrative in the beginning. Also sorry for rambling, hopefully this made sense.

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Big 4 is rough. I made about 50% a year more within a year of switching from Big 4 to a regional. Look at Vault’s list of firms with best comp. loaded with regionals. Big 4 are conspicuously absent. For reference- I was making what M2s at PwC made as an S3 at a regional.

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