My sister in law who lives across the country wants to celebrate her first wedding anniversary on a family trip somewhere tropical and about 2-3 hour flight from her. We have a 7 month old who is currently going through a sleep regression and husband and I are getting no sleep. On top of that, we’ve started solids and meal times are a struggle right now as we find our way through this. We tried to tell SIL we are sorry but now is not a good time for travel. She won’t take no for an answer and

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Oh geez, if she’s the kind of person who thinks the entire extended family needs to go on a trip to celebrate a wedding anniversary between two other people, there’s no reasoning with her. You’re going to have to accept disappointing her for the rest of your lives. This is a her problem, not a you problem. The only solution is to care less and free yourself from her expectations because it sounds like she’ll create drama forever. Wait ‘til she has her own baby.

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Big anniversary celebrations are definitely for milestone anniversaries. I’d google the statistics of marriages lasting past 5 years and text them to her and say that you’ll help her celebrate her 25 or 50 year 😂

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I have never ever ever ever ever ever been asked to celebrate a first wedding anniversary for someone else. What a wild request

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I’ve never heard of a family trip to celebrate someone’s wedding anniversary. Sounds like alot to ask.

If she is insisting, is she also paying for you + your husband + your baby (not that money is even an issue)?

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My family went on a trip for my parents 25th anniversary but that was just parents + kids, not my parents siblings lol

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Loll is she alright?. Why is she involving other pple in celebrating their first wedding anniversary??? This is an easy NO. You don't even need an excuse, just NO.

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Tell her the screaming baby will ruin it for everyone, and you are staying back to protect them having a nice time together. For an added bonus, record the baby screaming for a minute. Send her that and tell her now to imagine 4-5 full days of that :)
Clearly she’s making it all about her, so ‘protecting her trip’ may resonate more.

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Wow. Didn't you already spend enough celebrating their wedding less than a year ago?? Wow.

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Constantly calls my husband and tries to “convince” him, as if it’s not really his choice and I’m the one that’s making the decision for us not to go. She generally behaves like this every time she doesn’t get what she wants. If I do nothing, we won’t go and she will throw a tantrum and we’ll all feel bad for a few weeks and move on. But, that won’t change things in the long term and we’ll be back in this position again soon. Is there something I can be doing differently to avoid being in this situation with her constantly?

Your husband needs to draw the line

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There is no other advice I can give that hasn’t already been said. Boundaries are critical, you and your husband should definitely shut it down ASAP. Also, know that she is the one being crazy - who even celebrates a 1 year anniversary as a family?! Absolute nonsense.

The only other person I know of who threw a group party for their wedding anniversary is Anil Kapoor in Dil Dhadakne Do. And see how that turned out.

Is she paying for you, your husband and your baby to go on this trip? Seems like a lot to ask for to celebrate a wedding anniversary. Unless she is paying for you + paying for you to bring a nanny on for this trip to help with the baby, she has no right to “not take no for an answer”

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