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My sister is unvaccinated with no plans to get the vaccine. She is getting married this year, meaning lots of events. I am pregnant, high risk (CH mama from yesterday’s post), and can’t risk getting Covid again. What would you do? Do I ask her to get vaccinated for my/her future niece’s sake? If she doesn’t, should I sit out the wedding events?

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Yes. Skip it all. Stand your ground. Old coworker had a baby in Aug and both parents got covid same week as the delivery. He recovered (don't know why he wasn't vaccinated, they are not anti-vaccx) . She's been on a ventilator all month and airlifted twice already. Coworkers set up a go fund me page. She hasn't spent even 72 hours with her baby. They are not even 35, or overweight or high risk or anything. True Story. So, will this be you, probably not, but could she have known it would be her? Probably not. This hit close to home since I just had a baby this summer as well. My whole family got vaxd and got Whopping Cough shot, stayed home, quarantined and showered after the grocery store. If I wasn't pregnant, I couldn't have cared less and while I might not have licked the subway seat, I'd have easily been out and about.

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That’s been a standard vaccine for years so hopefully hesitancy is less. People already had it, you just asking them to get a booster. Both my kids were fall/winter babies. We made very clear to all grandparents and immediate family (those who would be over a lot in the early months) that flu shots and tdap boosters were required for access to baby cuddles.

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Stand your ground. Blame the pediatrician for any rules you need to set, like Covid/flu/TDAP vaccines, and be clear that you take medical advice from medical professionals only.

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Yup me telling my parents it was my pediatrician who wanted me to follow precautions was the only way theyd even get a covid test done before meeting their newest grand baby. Our word should be enough but sometimes its not apparently

Sounds like you need to have another conversation with her to understand if you can help her overcome her hesitation on the vaccine.

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Just had a similar situation with my sister (no wedding, but big events she is a part of, and she's unvaccinated). Straight up told her that she will be quarantining and getting tested before seeing my baby, or she will not be seeing the baby at all. She's a little ticked but I think understands the severity of the situation. If I were in your situation, I would sit out of the wedding events for your health and safety. It's no joke! I found the Tdap vaccine conversation to go a lot more smoothly with everyone. I think the lack of politicization makes that one a lot easier to handle for most people.

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Very curious if she will let her wedding guests know she is not vaccinated so they can make an informed decision? I would be furious if I went to a wedding during delta variant Covid and found out after the bride was not vaccinated and didn’t share that info. (The wedding I am attending this weekend requires proof of vaccination, which I think is great.)

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I’ll just add I’m so sorry you are going through this! Family weddings can be stressful as is, but throwing in a global pandemic and pregnancy and that is a LOT to deal with. Hang in there!

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My parents and aunts/ uncles are all vaccinated and went to an outdoor wedding earlier this month. 5/6 got breakthrough covid cases bc someone at the wedding wasn’t vaccinated and must of had covid. Don’t risk it. I firmly believe in standing your ground in this situation.

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I would not go; nor would I feel guilty and then I would also let her know in writing she will see the baby on zoom until I have dr’s proof of her pertussis vaccine. If your sister isn’t vaccinating out of choice vs out of necessity, she is opting out of you being considerate of her nuptials. Your health and your child’s health is the priority, even if we weren’t in a pandemic.

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It feels dramatic, but we are being very careful and aren’t even seeing unvaccinated friends indoors, on top of plenty of other pandemic cautions.

What's CH mama?

Cystic Hygroma - it’s fluid that means something might be wrong with the baby, whether a genetic or physical defect. Testing now, but the takeaway is that it is a very high very pregnancy.

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