My SO had a career change, went back to school, and just started with his new job. He is struggling a bit and is very stressed out. What can I do to help?

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I don’t know up to how extent this helps & this may sound stupid also-

Motivate him, don’t take it personally if he says something under stress, go for walk, talk about good memories you had, cook some of his favourite dish, make sure he gets healthy sleep

Don’t stare at him with a dumb look and tell him he shouldn’t stress about something. Don’t walk out when he gets frustrated. Just be supportive. Tell him you understand how he feels. Tell him you know it sucks. Etc. so you know, the opposite of what my ex wife did.

This is great advice and very kind of you to provide help. That said, I LOL’ed at the last sentience. Well played…

I just don’t know exactly what to say. I don’t want to sound dismissive if I say ‘just focus on one thing at a time and don’t worry about the rest’ and I don’t want to stress him out more by suggesting doing something together.

He just needs empathy. Find his love language and lean into it to show you’re supporting him. Anyone can stand on their two feet but it’s also comfortable to lean against a wall sometimes. Be their wall!

Feed him, water him, and be patient with him. (Wait, he's a man, not a plant.)

Still, Feed him. Help make/encourage little breaks, and allow him to talk about what's going on and cheer the wins!

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