My SO is a contractor and takes multi-month breaks in between projects. I’ve noticed for years that their personality changes (for the worse) when working, but WFH has made life especially toxic. I’ve tried broaching the subject from multiple angles but always leads to what appears to be blinding anger where they say very harsh /hurtful things. Any advice on how to handle?

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Sounds like they can’t handle stress. If the anger is at the point where you had to come ask Internet strangers for assistance, I’d suggest therapy for your SO.

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Any idea the underlying issue? Like do they hate their job, or have a terrible boss, or work crazy stresssful hours? Or do they get to do things when not working (get more exercise or sleep) that they don’t get when working?

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