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My SO is always adjusting our lives to accommodate his family - from our holiday plans, to where we may settle down, etc. however whenever he needs help he reaches out to my family. It really really bothers me but whenever I say it he says I’m so transactional in mindset about my family helping. Not the case imo but yes it bothers me that he has my sister help him with things but plans life to convenience his brother

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He’s probably still seeking his family’s approval vs him feeling comfortable and confident with the support he gets from your family. Doesn’t make it right but it may explain the root of his intentions.

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Why does your family help him? Have they complained to you about him? And does he reciprocate by helping them out as well?

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