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Hi Tcser,
I am in RMG now, Looking for onsite opportunity,I hv total working experience of 8 years where with Tcs 6+ years,
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Hi guys,
What is the policy in your firm related to working hours during Ramadan?
As per the UAE government, private sector working hour must reduce by 2 hours. Does your firm/project comply with this and if not, isn’t that a violation?
https://www.thenationalnews.com/uae/government/uae-announces-ramadan-working-hours-for-private-sector-1.1200607
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He made his bed. Now he gets to lie in it.
Or not lie in it, as the case may be
Chief
lol you did nothing wrong. Just drop him, he’s not worth your time and here’s why:
He wanted to leave because he thought he could do better, so he didn’t value you or what you had. He went out there, didn’t find the fun/excitement/attention he was expecting and then decided to crawl back. But the point is it shouldn’t take a break for anyone to value you and what you have to offer. He took it for granted and now is throwing a fit because you agreed to a break that he wanted? Sounds like a whiney child. So if he had hooked up with other women, it would’ve been ok for him? But you can’t, right? When someone shows you who they are, believe them and don’t disregard their actions for whatever words/excuses they have
Yes I agree when someone shows you who they are, believe them. I think it backfired on him. He thought he could do better and thought I would be patiently waiting for him. I also think he may be lying when he said he didn’t hook up or talk to anybody during the break. Sometimes I think maybe I am overthinking but all the manipulating signs were there and I am just now realizing them.
The fact that he never responded to you when you first said you should just take a break was signal enough that he doesn’t deserve you. He didn’t respect you enough to acknowledge how you felt. And now he’s being a jerk because you lived your life? That’s totally controlling behavior - drop him!
This is a classic power move where someone wants all of the control. THEY said they want a break. And you said nope, then we are done for good. So…. You went and had fun. You did nothing wrong and they’re just trying to control you. Good riddance.
He wanted a break. You told him it was equivalent to breaking up for you. He didn't say anything about it, and assume you would go along with his definition of "break" and get mad that it is actually over? Hah!
Good job, OP. You dodged a bullet. Don't let him back into your life. No no no no no.
Oh man. You want to test something, sit for SAT. Actually, your SO's behavior here is in line with what high schoolers do, so SAT seems fitting.
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This is my favorite meme.
What was the timeline for this? How long was it from when you guys messaged, to when you slept with other people? The timing of these definitely matters.
He definitely should have responded immediately to your message, but you definitely should have explicitly stated "I'm going to sleep with other people if we're not dating anymore." Both of you messed up there.
Honestly this sounds like both of you would be better off separate. The communication breakdown and emotional damage seems too far gone to salvage the relationship.
Chief
P2, I think the reason why the timing doesn’t matter is because OP was clear that a break is the same as a breakup in her eyes.
Sounds like you both dodged a bullet.
A1: I am sure I have some toxic traits too but I know what I did wasn’t entirely my fault as he makes it to be. Anyways even if he did dodge a bullet that won’t make me upset because I would rather be single or be with somebody that values me and brings the best out of me and not play stupid games.
He is full of it with the “testing your love” crap. He met someone else, thought it might go somewhere. It didn’t work out, he came crawling back. His ego is hurt that you weren’t sobbing into your pillow waiting for him to return.
Chief
You did nothing wrong. If he wants to get back together - and you do to - you can give it a shot; it’s not beyond salvage. But for that to work: (a) it would be useful to figure out why he proposed a break to start with; (b) he doesn’t get to pretend that you did something wrong/sulk about it; and (c) you don’t get to say “things happened”. You wanted to sleep with those guys, you were allowed to and you did nothing wrong, so you slept with them. Good for you.
TL;DR: if you own things and talk to each other - and want to try - you could give it a shot. If you don’t want to… well, then you have your answer.
SM, it doesn't make sense because you think OP's ex was acting in good faith. He wasn't.
It's not normal in a relationship for couples to take "a break." A break is a break up to me. Furthermore, when you're in a relationship you're supposed to communicate and work out your issues while you're together. The "needing alone time to think" can happen while you're still in the relationship.
He sounds immature and doesn’t know what he wants - very typical behavior IMO. Very wishy washy, who the hell has time to pacify and figure out what he means through the lines. Maybe he was a dodged bullet, maybe he is the one who got away..who knows. I’m not in the business to show a still growing immature man that I’m the best thing that ever happened to him lol. And if he is a mommas boy…that’s just a red flag in itself. There is a difference with loving and caring for your mother vs. being pacified by her.
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If you don’t mind me asking, OP, are you or your ex desi by any chance? This sounds very much like something South Asian moms would expect their future daughters-in-law to do
He’s only mad because he didn’t have any options to explore.
If you get back together he will throw it up in your face in every argument.
Man I don't miss playing these games when I was dating. Relationships with integrity and communication do exist out there folks.
Definitely not at 1Oak in the bathroom using the toilet tank lid recreationally.
Rising Star
That’s his problem, sounds like whatever he wanted to do didn’t go his way now he wants you back. He wanted to do it without feeling guilty which is why most people ask for a break. That way they technically didn’t cheat or do anything wrong. Tell him to grown up because he got what he asked for. Did he expect you to wait for him when he could have decided never to?
You said you were madly in love and then it suddenly changed— looking back, was he love-bombing you?
PA Consulting, this is not her responsibility and prolongs her exposure to him. He’s also ticked at her and the chances of her getting through to him are slim. Better just to walk away.
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Definitely not salvageable. I dont get breaks...
He has zero self awareness. Yawn.
Chief
Proud of you for sticking to your boundaries OP. And being honest and open! Love to see it
Chief
Yes. You’re doing great, sweetie!
You were honest and clear with him. He behaved immaturely by not responding. You did nothing wrong moving on. You don't seem particularly interested since you said it isn't salvageable. Cut ties and move on!
Sounds to me like he screwed up his chances with you royally. Move on, he's not a keeper.