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Stage fright for your SO? Honestly, I don’t think it’s normal and could be a sign of something underlying that needs to be addressed
My SO is also an extrovert and sometimes will ask me the same thing. Sometimes I'm just honest and I say.... I'm honestly not thinking about anything right now (which is true) and it buys me a few moments to think through my day and what might be new.
Taking a few moments to think of something wont feel so awkward or strange if you don't think you are being awkward or strange for not immediately having a response.
Sometimes to prevent this... I will also just randomly ask him what he is thinking about. Also, over the years he has learned that silence isn't always a bad thing
Yeah being "on" all the time gets exhausting for me. I thought I could manage and there's so many good things about the relationship, but this seems to be fundamental enough that it might not work going forward.
There is nothing wrong with you, OP. Get a new boyfriend. It seems he can’t accept you for who you are.
That’s sad. I had a boyfriend like that. He constantly needed to be entertained and found quiet moments boring. He made me feel hast there is sth wrong with me for being an introvert. He eventually broke up with me and I realized later how much of a favor he had done me. His extreme extroversion hadn’t allowed any intimacy.
I can definitely identify with this!
My wife somehow got me to a comfort level where I usually can process thoughts normally and hold conversations well. She is the least judgmental person I know, and that was super helpful for me.
One exception is tense conversations and arguments. She knows I usually need to sit alone with my thoughts before I’m ready to talk about things we disagree about and she will give me that space within reason.
If this is someone you really care about and see a future with, perhaps counseling would be helpful? Healthy communication is so important!
I wish my SO was like this. He tells me he won't judge but I've definitely seen him judge others and be judgemental about things - which is fine if that's what he is comfortable with. Subconsciously, I think that makes me put a guard up, maybe? I'm not doing it on purpose, I can generally keep the flow of a conversation going and I will share my opinions, but when he just wants to hear me talk on my own, it makes me uncomfortable. What do I even say hah