My son has started hitting and also saying "you stupid". The teacher said another kid at school is also doing it. At home he's hitting me and my husband even when he's happy. When i have explained his hitting makes me sad he says it makes him happy. We have tried time outs, taking things away, talking about it. How do I get through this behavior? Almost 3 yo

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If my 3 year old is hitting me because she’s mad/frustrated, I yell ouch and walk away and tell her I’m walking away because she hurt me. (This is also what we tell her to do if a friend hits her when they’re playing together.)

If she’s hitting while playing (happens sometimes when she’s overly amped up) I redirect her to a higher energy activity (usually throwing soft toys into sand buckets) to get the want-to-smack-something energy out without making a big deal out of it.

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A two year old is not able to link time outs and losing toys with the hitting behavior, and talking about it is going to be limited by their ability to have communication skills to discuss it.

In the moment, address the behavior by removing yourself: “I am getting up and moving to keep my body safe. You used your hands to hurt me, that is not okay.” And repeat ad nauseam until they realize that hitting means playtime is over. For the name calling, I’d be inclined to completely ignore it, but you could also try a variant of the same thing: “I am stopping playing with you because you called me stupid and that hurts me.”

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Will look into her, thank you!!

Got to love the honesty of a two year old. Be simple (no long explanations) and consistent in the consequences. he’ll learn.

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My kid recently has been changing his behavior when I tell him that I’m getting frustrated or that I am going to get angry. He is almost 4 it worked wonderfully for like two months ……
and then the other day I told him I was going to be frustrated and he said OK you can be frustrated I’m not going to put on pajamas.

I laughed so hard…. And then was sad that I needed a new method

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Therapy, behavior therapy and a lot of patience.

Pwc1 , yeah for sure. However, sometimes we need additional help to correct that type of behavior. That was my experience at least ♥️

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