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My step brother just passed away and my boss is still scheduling meetings for me to attend tomorrow and asking for turn around ASAP. Am I not allowed a day or 2 to grieve and pull myself together??

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Have you asked your boss to give you a couple of days of bereavement leave?

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Yes and I was told I could take a day but that was immediately followed by a list of things I needed to do ASAP making it impossible to actually take time.

Ugh. One of the partners at my firm who had been ghosting my emails about an assignment for months did this. He got my email about my stepdad (the man who raised me) dying and then was trying to get me on unnecessary calls with our new hires BEFORE their start date. I felt like it was just a flex. I told our managing partner just so he knew that I was about to tell this partner exactly how I felt about his power move.I said.... We had no pressing deadlines; He had ignored my emails on this matter for months and only now sent me an assignment on it with an immediate turnaround time; I wasn't going to be calling new hires until they were actually working for us. He gave me the silent treatment, but my mental health was worth the fight.

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Agreed. It's so sad that this is even an issue.

I would email whoever you need to and schedule bereavement. Then email partner—when I return from bereavement, I can start on this project. I understand given the turn around you desired if you need to assign it to someone but I will gladly start on this when I return.

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I know it’s hard but just tell them you can’t do it and that you need the time off. You will never look back and wish you worked and not taken the time to grieve with your family or by yourself.

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Have you informed your firm that you’ll be away? If so, that is absolutely unacceptable. I would firmly say that you are away for a couple of days, you can deal with it when you get back or find someone else to do it.

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I’m actually in-house. I did say that. Part of my issue is we are currently undergoing layoffs so I’m finding it difficult to pushback because I’m worried for my job.

Sounds like Biglaw. We all have stories like this. If the team you’re in is too toxic for you to handle then say no and eventually leave.

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Where are you at and what is your practice area?

So sorry for your loss.

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Thank you 💕

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So deeply sorry for your loss. People are monsters.

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Thank you I appreciate it.

I’m so sorry for your loss.

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Thank you 💕

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Say. No. Be an adult.

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