My three year old now doesn’t go to bed until around 9 pm (and gets up around 7/730 am which we prefer… don’t want to move that schedule). I used to squeeze in extra work from 8-930/10 but it’s no longer feasible. How do you manage? I see my options as…
1) find a job that is more 9-5
2) start waking up early to work in the morning (not a fan as I think sleep is very important)
3) trade nights with husband where every other night I work vs him while the other hangs with the kid after 8

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If 3 yr old is still taking a nap, this could shift again once they stop the nap. My daughter just started regularly skipping naps at 3 1/2 and moved her bedtime up from 9pm to 7:45/8 again and is still sleeping in until almost 8 sometimes. It feels like I have my whole evening back.
If they are not napping and the schedule doesn’t show any sign of shifting soon, see if you can give them some extra quiet play before falling asleep. Some nights my daughter sits in bed for almost an hour happily talking to dolls, singing, and just decompressing. She’s in a queen sized bed and wants to be in her room with all of her things so it works out well.
I can quietly work from a few rooms away and get back to cranking before she’s actually asleep.

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This is us. I now work a 9-5 for the most part so I don’t pick up working later in the evening anymore, but if I have to, my husband can take over after dinner / bedtime activities for the kids and that lets me carve out maybe 1-2 hours if I’m super productive. Occasionally I’ve worked 9-11pm if it’s really crunch time. Am not a morning person so that is not feasible.

Agree with the poster above… if your child is still taking a nap I would try to drop or reduce it so you can shift bedtime back to the 7-8pm timeframe. Every child is different and you know your kid best, but our pediatrician to us that we should be aiming for a 7-8pm bedtime until the kids are like 8 years old so that they are getting the right amount of consolidated sleep at night for optimal brain development. Our son struggled to fall asleep at night between age 3 & 4 until we bit the bullet and dropped his afternoon nap.

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