My uncle tried to fistfight my husband over politics yesterday. This has never happened in my family before and it puts me in a difficult position. Im on my husbands side, but can’t completely (cont’d

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Well, from the view of someone that didn't mend the fences...decide what is more important to you. And sometimes that means what family as well. My family has never been super tightknit but we had a similar debacle. I find their beliefs deeply troubling and, tbh, being around them became a chore and I hated how I felt around them.
So, i cutoff contact completely. I've been much happier since. Honestly, im happier and they probably are too. By far one of the healthiest mental decisions I have made for myself. Family is who you choose, not just blood. The fact someone raised me means they get my respect and appreciation. It does not entitle them to dictate my thoughts and beliefs and does not guarantee we will love eachother forever.
Just giving another point of view since so far it has just been put family first....and that's cool, but what family? And if its blood family, why? Because by chance you were born into the same faimly...that should overrule everything else? It never made much sense to me, but again i did not have a super tightknit extended family.
Anyways, do what is right for you. Just thought I would provide a different perspective.

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OP. I totally understand that issue. To be transparent, I have cutoff speaking with my mother completely. I have nothing against my stepfather and he helped raise me (married when I was 2 years old - he is the only real father figure I know. Biodad is around but just visitation). Because he is married to my mom, my cutoff also cut him out of my life....which was difficult.
I truly just made a decision regarding what was best for me. That said, no young children are involved, so I understand the delimma you have.
I will say, I made a decision many may see a selfish. But it was what was best for me and my immediate family (my partner of 11 years and our soon-to-be child). Someone told me a long time ago that 'you love you the most.' It's true. There isn't anything wrong with that.
I understand our situations are different (no children involved that I cannot visit with as I am the youngest child and I still see my sister often and her children). But I guess i just want you to know that....if you decide to take a step back from them(him) for a bit, that doesn't mean you are a bad or uncaring person.
It sounds like a mess and like you don't want to take a step back (totally get it and is your choice), so good luck! It seems like others have been through similar issues and are providing helpful suggestions. :)

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That sucks big time. This is an intense time for families with mixed political stances. I dated a guy for 6 years who was Breitbart level republican and so was his family. (I still have no explanation for why I did this.) It made my family uncomfortable and they just stayed away from politics whenever he was around and I avoided talking politics at home. Again, I have no idea why I dated this person. My fam was very happy when we broke up and they could have open discussions again at family gatherings. When I started dating again, they had a vested interest in the political leanings of any promising guy and were relieved when I told them my fiance is "like us". So, I guess, just all agree not to talk about politics or any subject that could bring up political stuff. That basically leaves it at current weather (no references to global warming), sports (no references to any protests), and how good the food you're eating tastes. Also, limiting the time you spend together and avoiding alcohol to reduce risk of any altercation. If a fight does start, walk away not matter how much it may hurt your or your husband's ego to do so. No one's changing minds that way. Good luck! Things will calm down after the election.

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Thank you and, my god, I hope so!!

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This doesn’t answer your question but I hope is helpful anyways.

We’ve had these rifts too, and after the first few, I banned specific topics from our table to prevent it from happening again. Not only do these topics make for boring dinner conversation, but they serve no purpose other than to divide my family.

As soon as someone triggers any of the banned topics, I loudly interrupt and say that topic is banned and then I forcefully change the subject. I do it with a smile and interrupt as many times as I need, and no one gets mad. It hardly happens now because they know it’ll go nowhere.

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This is definitely what we will have to do. I am just hoping the damage is not permanent

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If your husband is willing to apologize for his part in it, have him do that. If the family can’t see past that, then you have to let it be for a while. Time will heal, and if it doesn’t then you know where things stand. It’ll take time for that to heal but at the end of the day, your partner in life is your husband and the two of you can only do so much to mend fences

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He is going to, I am just hoping that once he does we can eventually heal things and be okay around each other. I don’t know if this toothpaste can be put back in the tube.

Man I think that really depends on what the topic was. If it was truly political, it will blow over. If it was more of a social/ interpersonal issue (race, sex, religion) you'll have a lot more work to do.

I refuse to talk politics with family. And I have an uncle who I just don't talk to period unless I am forced to say hi at a wedding or something because of his loud, openly racist, "political" comments. He thinks he can say that stuff openly now because it is "politics" and he has "a right to free speech" and that nonsense. That fence will not be mended, ever.

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stop talking to my uncles family or keep separate from them. My husband is not blameless in the situation and is going to apologize, but I’m afraid this is going to cause a rift between people aside from just the two of them. Does anyone have experience mending fences

We have east coast liberal and Midwest conservative factions in my family, and my mom and I firmly state that we are family first, before membership to any political faction. Something similar just happened, and it took not just apologizing, but discussing how we mean more to each other than any political belief. Family should always come first, and we should tell each other that!

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