My wife and I just finished the IVF cycle and there was no implantation. We’re bummed out a bit. I’m 42 and she’s 40. Her something number is .6 what I understand to be super low. Anyway, it’s super emotional but I find myself more angry than anything else… I’ve wanted to have kids for the last 10 years and she kept putting it off. Put an iud in without talking to me about it, and insisted that we couldn’t get pregnant until she was ready. I feel like she took my future from me by delaying until

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It’s emotional, it’s tough. But be kind to her and to yourself. You’re trying. My AMH is bottom line low, lower than your wife’s: 0.0914. My husband and I are 10+ years married and waited until recently for children because of careers, travel and what felt was best for our relationship. I am 36 and he is 44.

I am not cleared to get pregnant at the moment because of my cancer histories and need to make sure all OK there. I have had 3 IVF cycles so far to retrieve eggs and hopefully successful embryos for when I am cleared for pregnancy. First 2 cycles I only retrieved 2 eggs and both times 1 embryo was healthy and successful and after genetic testing it was normal/euploid. My 3rd cycle was actually this morning. I’m writing this in the recovery room. 3 eggs retrieved today and I hope for successful fertilization 🤞🏻 and then hopefully blastocyst stage.

With such low AMH I know I cannot produce as many eggs as a normal/high AMH level woman and am working with my body to try as best as possible. When the chance to implant comes I am hopeful for it to be successful. If whatever reason not, then my husband and I have options we discussed inclusive of surrogacy, adoption.

Please don’t blame her. I never knew I would need to experience this, most women don’t.

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Very curious on your protocol. I have low AMH - .3. I have been through 3 retrievals the most they have gotten is 1 egg each time and none have made it past day 1.

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I highly recommend counseling with someone who specializes in fertility journeys (individual and together). It made a huge difference for us. Honestly, it probably saved our marriage.

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Thanks I’ll try to bring that up with my wife.

So...I was in a similar situation. I wanted kids so much earlier than my husband. But my husband kept pushing it off for 8 years saying we were not ready. We ended up going to the IVF round. Was I mad at him and still think about it from time to time? Absolutely Yes! Did it help? No! Not only it was not good during the process, it was not good for our relationship either. But I still cherish the marriage very much and he was extremely supportive during the process. I couldn't do it without his support and encouragement. Now I think back, we may end up divorce if we actually had kids earlier when he wasn't ready. Now we're both financially stable and in a good mental stage, so definitely in a much better place for a kid. I've learned changing my attitude towards it make things so much better. Wish you luck for the next cycle! It's not unheard of for people to conceive over age 40, just be patient that this can be a long journey.

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I feel bad for you.

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I’m so sorry. My husband and I also delayed, I was 38 and he was 40 when we went the IVF route. We eventually had a successful FET! Like others have said, I’d recommend counseling and continuing with the IVF process. Best of luck

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…until she was ready. Now there’s no chance… I guess we can try again, but she was only able to produce three viable eggs. SMH. I’m frustrated but trying to stay supportive.

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Not ridiculous at all. I remember thinking how good it was that I was able to keep busy at work during my busy season when I had my first miscarriage. Anything to take your mind off of it.

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I’m sure this is frustrating, but try to not play the blame game. Have you explored other options like surrogacy, egg donor, or adoption?

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We have talked about it, but as another commenter has said… maybe it’s a husband thing, I’m not hip to adoption at this point. Otherwise we’ve spent so much, there’s not much left in the pot. 🤷🏼

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10 years is a long time to delay. Are you sure she definitely wants kids?

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Yeah. She does. Shes a kindergarten teacher.

I’m so sorry. That’s awful. It’s her AMH that’s .6… I hope you two can figure it out.

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We’ve been talking about a second cycle. I think the progesterone was making her feel like she might have been pregnant. That part was rough.

Did the eggs fertilize? If so, three is great!! I have an AMH of .9 at 37, 4 eggs retrieved, and NONE made it to blast. This was after a failed IUI and two miscarriages. We were devastated.

Doctor told us to take a cycle off to allow lifestyle changes and vitamins to work their magic. Two days before we were to start the next round, I found out I was pregnant!! Currently 16 weeks along with a healthy baby girl. Don’t give up hope.

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