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My wife is going to india to take care of sick parents.

Are there any single parents here ? Looking for some encouragement and tips on how to handle work and a 2 year old and cooking and clean the house all alone?

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Outsource cooking and cleaning. When we were in a similar situation, we hired an aunty to cook food at home for 3 days a week. It took a lot of pressure off of my husband and he would store the food for next day.

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What was your role in the household before this situation came up? What chores did you do and chores did your wife do?

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Now that makes sense, since you didn't help out much you're panicking. Start by helping out more at home so you can see how she manages everything then take if more. Or else just get an au pair or nanny

Age? Your age?

What do you mean?

We do send to daycare, but still just thinking of doing everything alone is overwhelming.

No harder than being a director

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Someone who went through a similar situation recently… I started all excited cooking everyday etc but by the end was ordering food online everyday, getting by and waiting for her to come back 😀

You will survive

That is exactly what happened 😀

Couple of things that worked for us when one of us was traveling: if your child goes to daycare, make sure to use the extended hours (from open to close); also, ask his/her daycare teacher (or a high schooler in the neighborhood maybe?) if they could babysit child for a couple of hours each evening while you do some chores/get a little break. Get frozen food from Indian stores or if you can arrange freshly cooked food to be delivered. Rotimatic helps too or a rice cooker, depending on the kind of food you eat.

Yeah need to plan the meals doing prep ahead of time. Want to avoid frozen food for the kid, but do have it for myself for the worst case.

I got desi nanny to help us out. Not same situation but 2 young childrens so hard to balance everything. Cooking and cleaning are two things she helps tremendously

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