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My wife’s family is very low income and her dad just lost his job. I’m thinking I may need to jump ship to increase my salary to help them out, but I enjoy my current job a lot. Anyone have to consider anything similar before?

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Have they asked for help? Seems like your idea may be unwarranted at this time unless they have explicitly asked. And even if they did, I don't think your choice is the best.

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Can you support them in any other way? Like helping her dad find a new job? The current job market has so many availabilities. Or maybe buying groceries for them every so often. What about your wife? Is she working?

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What do you mean not many opportunities? It’s retail when there is a labor shortage in Xmas shopping season. Literally everyone is hiring.

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Save them some pride by sticking to what you enjoy.

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Family first! Market is hot.

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I'd probably start by helping him find another job. At the very least seasonal work for the holidays should be picking up until he can secure something more permanent. And if you do decide to changing jobs makes the most sense, you don't have to feel rushed to do so.

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Yeah I have a lot of relatives in poor countries, so help them out on a monthly basis. Can’t watch your people struggle.

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Agree on the sentiment. I would definitely try to do all I can to help my family. But you are definitely not being selfish for hesitating. To be honest, I think you also need to be careful of not making any decisions that would put at risk your relationship with them in the long term (e.g., resenting them because you did not end up doing what you want as a consequence of this decision). Market is hot right now, I’m sure you can find something that ticks all the boxes if you look hard enough.

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Mainly, am I being selfish for hesitating?

OP you are not being selfish, but also don’t listen to M1. Consider how your wife feels and what you’d be inclined to do if it were your family.

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@OP, sending remittances won’t solve the broader problem. Offer your time and advise how they can be self sustaining - think entrepreneurship.

Keep yourself happy.

On the similar page as you. Big4 can’t match industry comp right now. But if you’re young enough, you can always boomerang 🪃

Not true on not being able to match….depending on your group and sector. If you love your work and want to stay, ask for a match.

Can your wife find a better paying job? Might be worth a convo saying you are doing something you are extremely happy with, which is rare these days.

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