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Need advice! Found out I was pregnant about 3 weeks ago and I was shocked! I’m in the middle of busy season and symptoms are hitting me HARD. I’m so tired and half the time I can’t think straight. Had my first ultrasound today and surprise it’s twins!! No wonder im drained! What do I do? It’s too soon to tell anyone I’m pregnant but I know my managers are wondering why I’m missing easy things and forgetting simple tasks.

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Congratulations!

I would hold off on sharing the news until you’re further along and wait until you’re ready.

I didn’t share it with my office until I was 5 months because my belly wasn’t showing. I was taking naps in the middle of the afternoon due to pure exhaustion. I was forgetting little things and/or getting dyslexic. There was no leniency. In fact, they used it against me during my evals and said I couldn’t keep up or perform. It wasn’t even a matter of me not trying. I was still pushing myself to get everything done and I tried triple checking my work, but small things still got missed. Pregnancy brain is real. I hope your team is more supportive than mine was.

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Maybe just frame it as you’re experiencing XYZ health symptoms? People get fatigue for a variety of reasons and oftentimes it’s difficult to pinpoint the root cause and shouldn’t be dinged for any reason so maybe just say you’ve been noticing a lot of fatigue and brain fog as of late and apologize if they’ve noticed in working with you

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Yeah I second this, just tell them you’re going through some health issues and new meds are causing fatigue/cognitive issues.

I’m personally disabled but don’t do accommodations yet, and people are pretty reasonable when I ask for stuff related to poor health. Also with cognitive issues, start asking people to send you an email or im follow up after a conversation with key items if that helps. Most people do it for me without issue and it helps me keep track of stuff when my cognitive functioning is low

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I don't think it's positive we work in an industry where telling your boss you are pregnant isn't exciting.

I would never lie about medical issues (as someone with a chronic illness that includes fatigue I am always just honest about it). It doesn't build trust. Having said that if you have a manager who will be anything but happy for you they might suck?

I'd stay vague "I have a bit going on at the moment and I'll tell you more when I can".

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It is okay to tell your managers sooner than 12 weeks if you are comfortable. I would rather a senior told me that so I could be understanding than thinking they just don’t know how to do their job anymore! Personally also, a lot of weeks pregnant and everyone has been really supportive even as I go out in busy season. You know your team so try not to stress! And congratulations!!

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