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Need advice from the community on helping a coworker feel more comfortable being himself at the office. As a firm we are fairly good at promoting “bring your whole self to work” however (continued)

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I was the closetted guy who latched onto a SM who was out and married. I found that just having a quiet ally, who I could look at as an example and see how life could be was enough. Gave me strength to see not everything will fall apart when I would come out. When it was right I came out to him, and I am thankful he didnt push or force anything. It worked for me, but everyone has a different story!

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I think he is in the closet professionally, he might also be personally. Since we met he has been latching on to me not in a creepy or unprofessional way but more like a “safe” or “comfortable” way. I’m very open at the office about my boyfriend and involvement in my local LGBT+ community. He’s always very engaged in those conversations. I have a feeling he’s part of the community, and I’m not sure how to appropriately talk to him about it and leave an open ended conversation without offending or assuming incorrectly. I would never want to force anyone out of the closet, but his actions make me think he wants to be himself at work but doesn’t know how or feel comfortable. How can I help him feel safe and comfortable at the office and encourage him to bring his whole self to work.

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Set it up / give him the opportunity to easily say something to you... "I couldn’t help but notice the openness and interest you show about me and my bf. Thank you - really appreciate having a great ally...”

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Ask him what is your story ?? Girlfriend? Boy friend?married single? I like you and want to know you better

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