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Need advice: I work in-house, report to the COO. I have 5 yrs of exp and just barely started this job. The COO is a nightmare. She has already made negative comments about four other employees, not related to what we were discussing. She micromanages everything down to telling me how to write informal emails. She is belittling and disrespectful and I have now learned that everyone else in the org feels this way. I’ve always had great relationships with bosses and I’m at a loss. What do I do?!

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It is tough when you have a boss like this. You have a couple of options. If you have a good HR function, you could consider talking to your HR business partner. There may be others who have complained about her leadership style and having more complaints could spur an intervention. If there is an anonymous hotline (ethics or HR) that is another option. If none of those are viable options, then you are left with managing up. This includes understanding her key triggers and avoiding them. Is there a way to feed the need that drives her to micromanage? Are there some people she works differently/better with and, if so, find out how they got there. I hope this helps.

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I don’t know if I have any advice, just some empathy. I am also in-house an report to the SVP of Ops. It’s a rapidly growing company and they have never had in-house counsel before, and therefore seem to not know what the norms are for the practice of law. I get a lot of pushback and micromanaging as well. My boss is very curt through email etc, but when we talk in person she is much better, so it’s difficult to read her. I think it’s partially a disconnect in my situation at least of how to handle another professional who is a direct report. The other direct reports are department managers and directors and the requirements of the job are completely different from mine. Sorry you are struggling.

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Thank you for sharing. :-) I’m sad to know someone else is struggling with odd in-house dynamics but it helps to know I’m not alone.

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Start looking for a new gig. :(

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