Need some advice. I’m in a long term, committed monogamous relationship, but I’ve been concerned about my own fidelity. I’ve never cheated, but I enjoy going on the various apps (Grindr etc) and talking to guys. It never leads anywhere and I don’t intend for it to, and it’s normally my replacement for other forms of internet entertainment. But I’m concerned it’s cheating. Is it? Where’s the line?

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I would say that if you’re doing it behind your partner’s back then it’s a form of cheating. It may not be physical (yet ?) but it’s being emotionally disloyal. It sounds like a convo should be had with your partner about you needs and desires. I also want to point out that feeling concerned about your fidelity isn’t atypical and it’s something a lot (most ?) people in relationships feel.

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^ I second this 💯.

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Not only it is cheating, it is also a waste of the time of whoever falls in your trap, since you are not really looking to meet.

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^💯

I guess the next question is: what do I do? Do I tell them that’s what I’ve been doing? It feels like opening a can of worms that could ultimately unravel a relationship. Or do I just talk about the needs and keep it to myself?

I would agree normally, but I don’t show my face or name and it’s just texting

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