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Need some advice! I’ve been in a serious relationship for a year. I grew up in a traditional south Asian family where no one discussed relationships. My older sister never introduced any of her boyfriends when she dated them either. But when my parent got divorced, my mom became way more open minded about things. So I want to tell her about my boyfriend. I’m still kind of nervous though. Anyone gone through something similar/any tips to navigate the conversation? Going to see her later today.

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You can start by mentioning this guy here and there to prime your mom for it. And then gently tell her about him. Be ready that she might not react that way you want her to but I think she’ll come around

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I have! I’m Indian too. Have some faith — things might go better than you think! You’re an adult in a happy relationship which you’d like to share with her, and that is something to be celebrated. It’s hard to be the first mover, but I’m so proud you are being brave enough to open up. Also, this might be difficult, but be patient with your mom. I find that my parents need a long runway to hear about, digest, and process information like this before they come around, so don’t necessarily take any negativity at face value.

Positive experience for me- I thought my parents would be upset but they were surprisingly chill and just wanted to meet him/ talk to him. Overall good decision I think to tell them sooner rather than later because then they might be more upset it took you that long to mention him lol

I think the fact that you’re the younger sister works a lot in your favor. I’m the younger sis too and saw my sibling go up against a lot of backlash / judgment from my mom (who’s East Asian) about his dating choices. I think he wore her down lol and now that she’s getting older the narrative has quickly changed to “when are you all going to find someone and when do I get grandkids?” But anyway I’d also suggest telling her and say you didn’t want to bring it up before you were certain this guy was really compatible with you. Good luck!!

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