Need some advice. Should I move back home to save money on rent and to eventually buy a house but younger sibling who I have severed ties with lives there or continue living alone with anxiety, not save much money but not have to see the sibling ever?

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Absolutely 💯 DON’T move home!

You’ve already made the smart decision to cut this person out of your life. No amount of savings is going to be worth the toxicity. Trust me.

Find a cheaper place or cut back elsewhere and I’m sure you’ll be fine. You’ll sleep and breathe and live much better not being under the same roof as her. Lots of people don’t have the option to move home and they do fine. You are one of those people. Adopt that perspective.

Good luck!

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Cut cable that will probably give you $100 or so a month to save for a house.

If I were you I’d save money because once you have enough you will never have to see your siblings! Hang tight

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She’s a pain and got me arrested once with her. I really don’t ever want to see her ever again but I want to live with my parents and save

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Doing this puts your parents in the middle, no? How do they feel? Do they think you’ll reconcile or know you plan to remain estranged under the same roof?
I think you have to pass. You say you don’t like roommates, but a roommate you hate (sister) is worse, no? I think you want the parents and not the sister but that’s not in the cards so decide based on the actual choices, not imaginary ones.

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Thanks everyone. Not worth the mental stress and emotional pain so I’m going to stay far away and make my life as drama free as possible. Probably going to move somewhere cheaper after my lease ends here.

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How big is the family home? Will you have your own spacious bedroom and personal bathroom?
Regarding the sibling, I’m a little surprised how quick some are to say stay away and don’t try to mend things. This must be creating grief for your parents and other family members, so it doesn’t impact just you. I obviously don’t know the full story here but I have a sibling who I’m pretty sure has done worse things and I’ve since forgiven. People do mature and change. Anyway, something to think about.

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Yeah it’s not worth it. They are going to take advantage of me and it’s best to stay far away

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OP: You start by saying you need some advice but you don’t really seem to want advice. Maybe you’re looking to vent, which is fine. But just be honest if you don’t actually want help with this.

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Is it worth the mental anguish?

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That not you though. That’s your parents responsibility to drop the hammer and giver her an ultimatum. If you move back, you’ll be adding yourself to the cycle.

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How long would you live at home max?
Draw out a pros and cons list to weigh options.

Also consider searching for a roommate and lowering costs that way! Sounds like a tough situation hope you go with what’s best for ya.

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That’s a hard decision and I get where you’re coming from. You just gotta do what will ultimately be best.

Years are a long time so look at things like FHA loans for ex that can help you buy a home with lower up front costs like down payment etc. I also would recommend the roommate route, find 2 other ppl (3 br are the best deals imo) and split, it will take longer but you will still save a lot.

I do understand being with parents however so if you choose home, honestly look at mending the relationship, it’s hard but this move could be a huge point in your like for many reasons. Again, Best of luck to ya!

I lived at home during law school and will move back after I finish my clerkship out of state. I have loans and want to pay them off ASAP. However I have a great relationship with my parents, both lawyers, who understand my workload. My sister who I get along with is there sometimes. I’m always on the side of saving money, but if it’s unbearable it might not be worth it.

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How much are you paying in rent now and what city? Can you get a cheaper place to save instead of going back home? I’ve learned as I’ve gotten older that my mental health is worth way more than my career is.

So you physically threatened her?

I moved back in with my parents during Covid and it has been the best decision!! I’m saving a bunch of rent and mentally it has really been amazing for me. Somehow I didn’t realized how unhappy I was living alone until I got home. My sibling also lived with us at the start and we are now closer than ever. We didn’t have as strained a relationship as you and your sister, but we definitely operated in two different worlds.

Would not be worth it in my eyes, protect your mental health.

Maybe consider downsizing your current apt - either a smaller place to save money OR consider moving to a multi BR and get roommates.

Depends on how bad they are and why. Is money worth being miserable?

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