{ "media_type": "text", "post_content": "Need some perspective on this: I’m 28, engaged & cohabitating, ~2.5 years working in legal aid in a super rural, low COL area. I make $53k/year, which sounds low until you realize the COL is like 25-30% lower than in a city. I absolutely love my job and would happily do it for the rest of my life if that was the only consideration and if I knew my job would stay like this forever. However, I’m not a fan of the general area (I’d like a bigger city) and we’re far from friends & family. (1/?)", "post_id": "6108840278872c0020475e97", "reply_count": 6, "vote_count": 3, "bowl_id": "5da60c126e5f0d001f32f497", "bowl_name": "Women in Law" }

Need some perspective on this: I’m 28, engaged & cohabitating, ~2.5 years working in legal aid in a super rural, low COL area. I make $53k/year, which sounds low until you realize the COL is like 25-30% lower than in a city. I absolutely love my job and would happily do it for the rest of my life if that was the only consideration and if I knew my job would stay like this forever. However, I’m not a fan of the general area (I’d like a bigger city) and we’re far from friends & family. (1/?)

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Is his field able to find remote positions in the meantime? Is he able to find positions that are not quite his area for a little bit? Or, can he start looking in the area you might want to live in?Of your options, option three sounds best to me. Look, let’s be real. We have no idea what’s going to happen in the next few years with Covid and politics and what not. We could have DJT 2.0 sooner than we would all like. Unless you guys are in love with the place you are at and feel settled, I wouldn’t tie myself down there yet. There are certainly legal aid jobs out there (speaking as someone who is engaged to a legal aid attorney) if you guys want to look somewhere else. Give yourselves flexibility for the next few years.

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2 or 3 seem like the only real options to me. 1 seems like a recipe for him to be unhappy long term and slowly resent you.

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2. I say this because lawyer is a pretty flexible job and there are so many other options for you.

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2. You can get trained elsewhere--you don't have to stay where you are. Consider that you can stagger you moves too--it can be a month or three apart.

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(2/2) Also, my area is so rural that my fiancé can’t find a job in his (very technical & theoretical STEM) field and is currently unemployed and looking for work. He’s been my house spouse for over a year, which frankly is GREAT, but it’s also the two of us on one salary, which is frustrating. I think if we were to move somewhere else, he’d have a better chance of finding work… but we’d also lose my sweet job that I love. I should say that regardless of where I am, I want to stay in legal aid. The way I see it, I have a couple of options, but please feel free to add more that I’m not seeing: 1. We stay here, I have guaranteed income and job, and he either stays my house spouse or takes a job outside his field while looking for more him-specific work. 2. We move, so either we both find jobs at the same time or we stay on one income while the other looks. I lose my nice job, and a different area will absolutely have a higher COL with likely the same pay, but we’re more likely to both have an income instead of just mine. 3. We stay for only a couple of years so I can get my ground-floor training in and be more experienced, then move when I’m the most marketable, knowing he might have a gap in his work history (or unrelated jobs) in that time. He’s said he’s happiest staying with me, but if money were no object, he’d want a job in his field closer to his family. But money is an object and so is the rest of life. It’s coming up for me because I’m looking at potentially buying a house here, which makes me moving a lot more of a Decision than giving up a lease.

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Have you ever considered North Carolina? there are more rural areas outside of RTP (research triangle park) that are super affordable if you don’t mind a small commute. (Durham and Raleigh can be affordable as well but lots of people are moving from NY and Cal driving the prices up). in RTP Your finance will have access to loads of stem jobs and you could still work for legal aid in Durham or Raleigh for Comparable pay.

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