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Need support and to vent/rant….Just broke up with my fiancé of 7 years (discovered infidelity and I couldn’t get past it) Literally the week before busy season. He moved out of our home this weekend. I’m trying to not break down. But how do I deal with this heartbreak and working through busy season? I have a kid from a previous relationship (her dad died 2 years ago) and I’m also really worried about her. I will have no support from another parent. What do I do?

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Consider making people you work for aware of your situation and asking for help when you need it. Everyone needs help in their careers, because of personal lives impacting work. You will get through this.

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Thank you. Your advice is much appreciated

Let the work and your coworkers be the break you need from thinking about it. As for your child - do you have any family close that could help out on weekends or one night during the week?

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Thank you so much❤️❤️

I had a manager who was having to single parent her little kids. She would come to work normal business hours, leave to pick up kids/ dinner/ bath/ bed and get back online afterwards. Maybe you could work something similar out with your team, even if your child is older, taking those few hours to spend time with your child and giving her daily attention. Because she's lost not only her dad but your fiance as well (assuming they had some form of relationship). For the breakup I'd welcome work as a distraction I can throw myself into.

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Thank you both. I know one day it will be a blessing in disguise. But my worry has been not spending enough time with my daughter during this. She was very close with my ex fiancé. I also want to do good in my career and just trying to figure out how I can handle all of this. I do have a good support system at firm.

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My heart breaks hearing this. Know you are strong and you are resilient - you will get thru this. But what I will say, women who need maternity, take time off. Those who have a loss, take bereavement day/days. Those who go through hurricane or Mother Natures “blessings”, take time off. There is nothing wrong with you requesting Time off. Speak to your counselor and explain, I just need to figure my stuff out real quickly and I will be back in full force. If I were your counselor, I’d be grateful for you speaking up knowing that you wouldn’t be 100% if you didn’t take that time off

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Thank you. It’s been hard to process what’s happening. But I do have a great team and support at my firm.

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What did he do

She said infidelity. Leave it at that and let her heal.

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