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Need to give notice to my firm tomorrow. Feeling overcome with emotion (guilt, nostalgia, excitement and trepidation). I don't think it will go well because it's a small firm, and I am very close to the partners, but need to move on to achieve career goals (and maintain sanity--I have a great relationship with my colleagues but there is a toxic culture). Truly think that my mentor will see this as a personal betrayal and blow up at me, and I'm sad to burn the bridge. Any words of encouragement?

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They won't care nearly as much as you think they will!

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Agreed. It's more likely they will be nice in hopes you refer them business in the future.

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Agreed, if the relationship is great, they will be happy for you. If they’re not happy for you, the relationship wasn’t that great and it’s likely best you leave anyway.

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I have similar concerns but at the end of the day, you have to look out for yourself first. Good luck!

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Don't worry, they likely don't care about you as much as you think they do.

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If your mentor takes this personally, his/her ego is more important to them than you are. Which means he/she is NOT a mentor worth keeping. I know all of this is easier said than done. But rip that bandaid off. Those that matter will wish you well, and those that don’t, well…they simply won’t be in your life to worry about anymore.

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Update: Partner walked out (slamming the door) and puked when I told him. But overall, it went better than expected. Haha.

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Puked?! 🤢

I feel like you just described my experience leaving my small firm a few years ago. The main partner I worked with asked me to step out of his office. Then called me back down and he had been crying. So then I cried. The boundary issues at some small firms are real! But now a couple years later we catch up every once in a while. All is well!

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^^hopefully the above is your case. My small firm took it personally and was wicked rude/unprofessional when I gave notice (and for the 3 weeks of work I did for them to “wrap up” because they begged me to). It was validation that I needed that I did the right thing + realizing that a work office shouldn’t always be “like family”

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