New parent, wife and I had our first a month ago. Feel like the baby likes my wife a lot more than me lol. I could be holding him the same exact way, but when she takes him, he stops crying or being irritable. Kind of a shitty feeling. Wonder if others have gone through this or am I just doing something wrong. Part of me thinks maybe the baby is more comfortable with mom because of the breast feeding connection? Idk

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You’re doing fine. My son wouldn’t let anyone (including his father) carry him until about 18months, then switched. Now that’s his best friend, he looks for his dad first, before coming to me. It’ll get better, just keep being a great dad 💙

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This is very normal for the first months of life and is about the developmental stage of your infant and is not a reflection of your parenting. Focus on supporting your partner right now since she is the primary soother to the baby. Make sure she has water nearby when nursing, make her nourishing snacks, even just keep her company while she is nursing or feeding. You can take baby for burping and diaper changes after/in between feeding and this will help tremendously. As baby approaches 4-6 months they will be much more interactive and responsive to you as a caregiver, so be patient! By a year old, they will think you are the most fun person ever. It gets better :)

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Do you participate in feedings? Babies recognize the scent of mom and their meal source lol. My cousin used to pump milk and bottle it so her husband could also bond during meal times with the baby. Also don't feel bad, babies are in their moms tummy for months and I believe I read they can hear her voice from inside the womb. It would be natural to feel more comfortable with a source of warmth you are more familiar with. As you get more involved, your baby will develop a strong bond with you too.

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