New project in a new office. Hung out with an Asian guy and called him dude many times. Turns out he's a manager.

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Why is the Asian bit relevant?

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Lol. I didn't mean any disrespect. It's a gift to look young and many Asians have it.

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Can Asians not be Managers...? I know of a bunch of D. Nice pre-conceived notion.

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here we go again 🍿

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@d3, that wasn't obvious until the clarification, cool your jets. @op, thanks for the response- was honestly curious why you included it as a descriptor. I wouldn't have chosen that approach, but glad to understand your thought. I also think you're fine having called him dude - managers are people too.

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*waits for someone to call BA1 a big liberal snowflake*

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It's obviously relevant because the point of the post is OP thought the guy was way younger than he is. It's funny and relatable, I've done the same thing, thinking a guy on my project was just out of undergrad who was in his 30s.

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You wouldn't call a manager a "dude"? I've called PPDs dude too...

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Was he offended? Did he call you bro? Most managers I've worked with are pretty informal when it comes to side conversations and it doesn't matter.

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And I'm a girl 💁🏻

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For anyone who can't see a problem: OP first patronizes the Asian guy by calling him dude, then feels regret after finding out he is a manager.

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What's wrong with calling a manager dude?

If you respected him as a person and called him "dude" as you would a regular person, if anything he probably sees you in a more positive light because you're not some buttoned up butt. Take it easy man and learn to be yourself no matter who you're talking to. Otherwise you'll never be happy.

If a manager can't handle being called dude, why would you want to work with them? I had one when I was recruiting at another firm throw up a fuss because I mentioned his 🏈 team got beat bad. No thank you.

Dude is ok with me

I'm a consultant who joined the firm few months ago. He was chill. I felt a bit odd after realizing he's a manager.

Consider yourself fired, dude.

I prefer calling my managers bro

I once took my manager to an emergency room. We all have weird interactions you get over it

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