New to American culture. I have observed that women randomly refer to me as “sweetie” at restaurants or other points of sale. I am not offended but definitely feel weird. Is this common ?

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Yes sweetie

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Better than when people call me salty

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With older women, yes, especially in the south. It’s meant as a casual alternative to sir or ma’am

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I am ugly as fuck and women still call me sweetie too in the south. It’s a hospitality thing. Don’t get too flattered.

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You mean once you get to know someone they’re usually not that ugly?

In the South, yes, sweetie, darling, sugar (suga’), honey, honeybun, sweetie pie etc. are all common - you should create a bingo board

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Term of endearment. My British beau finds it infuriating when Americans walk past him in the office and ask “How are you?” Without waiting for the answer 😂😅

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Yes that’s super annoying!

Culturally appropriate response would be: ‘thanks honey-bun’

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Pulp fiction vibes

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If you’re young, and especially if you’re a a young woman, it’s common that older women will call you sweetie, no matter what part of the US you’re in. In that context it’s a term of endearment.

It can also be used sarcastically as an insult, by younger people usually. Depending on the tone of voice and facial expression, it is meant to say that they feel sorry for you for being deficient in some trait.

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I grew up overseas and found it very weird when anybody in the US referred to me as : hon, sweetie, etc. You'll get used to it, but it is a bit of a culture shock at first.

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Very normal, unisex. It's usually a form of politeness and endearment like your grandmother would talk to you.

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Very common, and I see no problem with that, it is part of the language.

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People in the south are overly polite and tend to be less direct than in the north.

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Just watch out for Bless your heart; it’s a trick

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Reply with "hey darlin', how you doing?"

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I think the Joey Tribbiani “how you doin“ would be a more appropriate response.

If a gay guy calls you this, it is anything BUT a term of endearment 😂

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It’s just how some people address it and is very common in my opinion. At a lot of places, the serving females call me honey. Some even sign on the receipt as thank you hun. In the email also many have addressed same way. I have also heard sweeties few times but it’s generally honey. These are just to show the affection and appreciation. At couple of places, they also told me you are so sweet hun and give me a hug. This is all cultural and I appreciate it as that shows the care and affection. It seems odd in the beginning but very soon one realizes it’s really very soothing.

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If someone calls you sweetie in NYC it’s meant to be patronizing.

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It depends on where you are in the US... I would assume the term is more prevalent in the South and towards younger men and women. I don’t hear it much on the west coast though...

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Hahahahah

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Salty mostly for cussing f’in pirates

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Believe me sweetie
I have got enough to feed the needy
No need to be greedy

- Notorious BIG

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