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New to single mom life and just recently started to (try) dating again. Met a guy - we got along very well and dated a few times but when I told him about my child, he said he couldn’t imagine having a relationship w/ someone who has a child that’s not his. I’m heartbroken - it feels like a loss beyond my control. How should I overcome this? We are both 32yo if that helps.

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There are plenty of other men out there who won’t be bothered by this. Move on and you will find someone more compatible for you. In the future, I suggest making potential dates aware that you have a child prior to your first date. Just put it in your dating profile. It doesn’t need to be discussed at length and prevents situations like this from occurring.

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Some men just aren’t interested in being a part of another man’s offspring. It sucks but it’s better you know now than waste more time.

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At least they are men and not lions. Chomp.

@OP, you definitely need to mention it to your date. Some things are off table unless the next person is going through the same thing in their life.

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You don’t need to overcome this you should embrace it. Best to know now rather than later and not everyone will have that reaction. Personally I prefer to date others with kids. I’ve had my own and I have taken steps to not have any more so dating someone who already has kids of their own is actually a bonus.

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Hey OP, I agree with Partner 1! I am a 32F with a toddler and have found that for a lot of men that they actually prefer that I already have a child. I also have it upfront on my profile so only match with guys who are well aware of my life and priorities, those where it would be a problem never interact with me. Here to support you!!

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Sorry Op — single dad here and have been through it .

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I am a female and do not date men with kids. Gotta be upfront. Mention it in your dating profile or mention it within the first 5 mins of the conversation.

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What’s with all the 32 single moms? when did you get married and have kid? There are plenty of guys who will react as OP’s date but many others who won’t, be upfront

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There’s nothing wrong with it but most ppl in consulting are likely getting married 28+. Kids likely very young when split happened

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