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Like PwC 1 said, it's extremely courageous to recognize that it's toxic. Create a plan and enlist support - friends, family, therapists - who can help you with the specifics (being there when you leave, helping to pack/move, a place to stay, encouraging you when you doubt yourself)

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OP, I've been there. Get your ducks in a row before you tip your SO off. Make sure you have a plan to handle finances/living situation/etc. Ask for help from friends, family, and professional resources to make a plan and hold you accountable to sticking to it. Those first few months will be hard, but one day you'll wake up and it will feel like freedom.

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If you know it's toxic, you have to muster the courage to go. Toxic relationships aren't good for anyone.

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Find a therapist experienced in dealing with abusive relationships - having help to get out of it is the best and fastest way. There are resources on Internet to help - learn how the dynamic works so you can start to free yourself and make smart exit plan that is appropriate given he level of abuse. I can point to resources if you like. You have shown the first and most important act of courage - recognizing the situation and asking for help!!! You will get out of it.

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You got this OP! It sucks at first but so worth it. You can do it!!

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Are you 100% convinced and sure that it's toxic?

By toxic do you mean emotionally or physically abusive?

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Don't let your heart make decisions for you. That's what the brain is for. If its a bad relationship and it no longer makes logical sense to stay, then leave no matter how much you love him/her. Leave leave leave. Just go and deal with the pain and hurt later and no matter what, stick to your guns.

After that you just have to hide out and wait it out until you don't hurt anymore. In 6 months, or a year (if you need it) it will hurt so much less and you'll be in a situation where you're open to the opportunity to meet someone who loves you the way you deserve to be loved. Good luck OP

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