No one ever tells you how bad a breakup can just make you feel like dying. Silly, I know

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I think it may be the toughest thing in life to go through, especially mentally. Everyone struggles with it at some point and everyone gets better in time

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Not silly. Took me nearly a year to get over an ex who cheated on me. The best advice I can give is to find healthy coping mechanisms and build a strong support network. We're here for you 🤗

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Not silly, but nothing to die about either. But without knowing the context it’s hard to sense how bad it might be. It can be super hard and crushing for sure. But here are some things that may make you feel better:
1. Love yourself more, so you can still be good for the next person.
2. If this was true love, cherish what you had, but know that, in the long run, tomorrow is going to be better than today (unless you’re very old and sick). So you will be happier again
3. If this was unrequited love, be happy because it’s not worth pining over someone that can’t love you back

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Hang in there OP. It took me a year to get over my ex, and I was in the same position as you in the beginning. Now I have found someone wonderful I can be happy with. So I know It sucks big time right now, but 6 months from now you will look back and won’t be that sad anymore. Trust me :)

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Hey OP, not silly at all. Going through a break up now myself. We dated for over a year and the break up was a little over a month ago during the holidays so I feel your pain. I’ve been going to the gym a lot more doing both cardio and weights, eating a better diet all of which has helped me a lot. I suggest to do the same. If you also play any instruments or use to as a kid, pick that back up and play. Playing the piano again has helped me as well. Best of luck and hang in there!

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That’s awesome man! Don’t forget to remind yourself about all their flaws when you start looking back through rose colored lenses and get nostalgic. Keeps ya a little more balanced

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Not silly at all. You are experiencing a loss, and there is a grief cycle. And depending on the circumstances (was it mutual? Was this seemingly out of the blue? Who initiated it? Etc.) Can add to the complicated process

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I am going through one and can relate. Just keep going and it will get easier. Be happy there is no kids involved too.

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Not silly at all, it’s a very tough thing to go through. It will get better with time, but in the meantime I’d recommend reaching out to your support network and talking to someone.

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It’s not silly :) :(
But, it will pass.

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I know how it feels! Here if you need someone to talk to

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Thanks guys! Just trying to get through

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not silly at all. be nicer to yourself 👊🏿

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In Tolkien’s Middle Earth, immortal elves can only die in two ways: 1) Getting slain in battle 2) Heartbreak. There’s truth to fiction, paradoxically enough. I don’t think your pain is silly at all. If anything, I want to hold space for it and honor it, because a bad break up feels like death for me as well.

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The flu also feels like this, ha (the only intent was to make you laugh because I currently have the flu and feel like death)

I’m feeling the saaaame

It took me 1.5 years to get over someone I dated for 6 months. It literally sucked.

I experienced something similar. It makes me feel worse to be so hooked on someone I didn’t even date for that long

Not silly. In my 20s I used to clock my suicide attempts around my break ups. Now if I date someone I feel nothing. I’d be shocked if a date was ever more than meeting and feeling numb.

You feel that way because something special left your life and you think you won’t find it again. Honestly maybe you won’t, which is why it is fine to grieve. Even if you never meet someone you like again you get used to that life too.

I fall in love easily and feel devastated when my relationships ended when I was a teenager. With my marriage just ending, I began casually dating and although I feel a physical connection I don’t feel much of an emotional one. I am hoping this is just where I am at in life and not a defense mechanism to not feel emotional pain by not seeking attachment. I only recently realized I was codependent and have been for ever.

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