Not a consulting question: I screwed up big time in my relationship 2 years ago. I split with someone because I did not have the conviction to be vulnerable and fight for her with my parents. Truth is I gave up too soon and really broke her heart. She’s been through hell and back since, had to see a therapist. It’s been 2 years now. She’s still single but she’s practically over me. I now know I could have done a 99 things differently. I think about reconciliation a 1000 times a day.What do I do?

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Leave her be and focus on the future.

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Leave her alone, please! She has been through a lot like you said & deserves someone who won't need to lose her, to know her value

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If you have any care for her you will let her be. Don't do anything to trigger her and make her recall the trauma. You'll be selfish of you continue to pursue.

Focus on the future and make sure you don't make the same mistake again.

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Leave her alone. I was in this same situation where I broke it off with my BF over something that should have been fought for. I thought about reaching out everyday since breaking it off and finally connected 4 years later. Things were just different and I felt extreme guilt for the trauma I put him through. Long story short, we rarely talk now and I kinda wish I would have just left it as is.

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What has changed on your family side and your side? Are you ready now to go the whole way for her, even if that means cutting ties with your family? If yes go ahead and tell her that and let her make a decision. If not, please leave her alone as she must have just gotten out of it all. And this would mess up with her mind like a lot.

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Please leave her alone. You need some therapy too and I urge you to seek professional help as well. She has made progress and please undo this by reaching out. It won’t be fair to her.
How are you doing? How has the last two years treated you? Hope you get over this and find happiness and peace in your life.

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I think you really need to see a therapist too. Deloitte has some resources you can try. Don’t talk to her.

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Too much baggage - this will be very hard to overcome - it’s a shaky foundation- move on 👍

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As someone pointed out, what has changed on your side to make you want to reconcile and not repeat your mistakes from the past?

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Things will again get worse for you if you get her back in your life... think practically and not emotionally

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Leave her alone.

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I’d say talk to her on how you can help her getting back to her pre-you life. It’s not easy but it will be definitely less than 99 things you could’ve done but didn’t/couldn’t do it. Breakups happen all the time in relationships but it sounds like she needs help and this is your chance to redeem yourself and move on with your life happily and peacefully. I won’t advise if she was crazy for you and wanted to control you etc. but in this case you may not have done enough for her then so try to do it BUT within boundaries. Good luck

Nope! Terrible idea. There's no way he can help. Please just let her be and don't undo whatever progress she has made. It takes a lot for someone to move on and you just showing up, pulls them down. If there was anything she needed help with, she would have reached out.

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Well, that's pretty much also applies to marriage. You fight, say absolutely mean things and you patch up. If you still love her and she still have feeling go for it

Like Nike says… Just Do it!

Kamzor Dil Chanda ko aasman mein Hi dekhte hain, kum se kum apni story ka hero toh zaroor ban jaiye 😉

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