Not addicted but want to be sober, what do you guys do on weekends? All my friends go out and drink, how do you avoid loneliness? How'd you find new friends and how long did it take if you did?

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I go out and drink like and soda. Made me realize that some friends I liked, and others were just drinking buddies. So i kept some friends, and made some new friends.


Ill try going out and doing lime and sodas.

I write blog posts that no one reads haha I still go out sometimes with my friends but not drinking makes it easier to see how your “real” friends are 🙃 you got this!


True that. Also, remember your friends are losing their drinking buddy too so they are adapting to you not drinking. Some will stick around and respect your decisions and the rest are obviously not your friends.

I stopped drinking for 14 months. 7 months in I was lonely and depressed. I went to an A.A. meeting and made a ton of friends instantly. I learned that people in A.A. are completely sober lol. I still went and was honest about being alcohol free and people welcomed me. I went back out for a couple years and now I’m completely sober.


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