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I have 2 offers, one from JPMC ( LOB IS Consumer and Community Banking) and the other from Wells Fargo. Both are giving similar roles, and exactly same pay. Location is Hyderabad. I tried for revision of pay but it didn't work.
Could anyone help me understand which one is better to join in terms of hikes, technology used and work life balance. I have to join on Tuesday, 16 Aug.
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When you get out of work before 8pm in a month
It is getting to the point where I may need to be one of those lifer consultants who is on his third wife or leave the firm.
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Well I make significantly more so I buy him nice presents. Then I try to help out and take on certain tasks: dishes & grocery shopping are mine.
I try to help as soon as I’m free but all I hear is negative comments about how I was busy all day haha
Team events, check ins and meetings after work hours aren’t exactly fun. So I get sympathy for it while my SO gets to spend quality time with the kids. Sometimes I ask for presents though because it’s so tough.
Ya I’ve totally never once considered drinking and eating “fun” it’s purely work
In my household, it's the price to pay for financial burdens. We are a single family household, and while my SO does not have team events, meetings, or other non-home responsibilities, they do have a lot of work to do. Taking care of several kids, cleaning, educating, etc., there are quite a bit involved. We do, however, make it work. It's the combined sacrifice that motivates us. It's the partnership, the common goals that drive us to push forward. That's us though. Hopefully, you get what you are looking for.
My spouse and I limit the amount of unnecessary work events so that we can focus on our kids and household responsibilities. Until people stand up and say to their work that they have lives outside of work, it gets better for no one.
I don't. Consultant here, we have a 2.5yo. I get my kid every morning, drop her off at DC before 8am to get on wth my day. During downtime I do my house chores (vacuum, bathroom, cook, etc.) and on weekends, I do anything I was unable to during the week.
I do not "help" my spouse with domestic labor. She works too. Not sure if we equally split the chores but we both pull our weight because:
1. we love each other; and
2. recognize that's how any partnership should work.
Occassionally we hire someone to come in and do a deep clean (1ce per quarter).
Then I pick my kiddo from DC at 5pm ish, I discuss with my team so this is not an issue. After putting LO to sleep at 7pm ish, I can attend to any work issue.
Outsource housework
Children... don’t know yet
You hire a nanny for a few hours per day at minimum so your wife can feel like a normal human being and get her personal things done.
I do my fair share of the housework. Obviously having kids changes the whole ballgame and we’ll likely have to outsource a lot of help, but it is important to both my boyfriend and me that we split things equally. Sure, it means that maybe things are a little messier and we eat the same meal-prepped meals a lot, but we’re both okay with that.
Single people with busy jobs somehow manage to take care of themselves so it’s not like it’s an impossible task for consultants to pull their weight around the house.
Money. Spouse wasn't complaining about my team-check ins and travel when we partied in France pre-pandemic.
There is a tradeoff between time and earnings in most well-paid fields. Obviously same or more money for the same or fewer hours is ideal, such as via promotion or a cushy exit. Or maybe the value of time will not justify the incremental earnings at some point. Not sure which will happen first.
Everyone has their own ideal balance between time and money. Hopefully you and your SO have similar ideal balances, or at least discuss what both of your needs are
Fiancé has long hours too, but we do 15 minute clean ups when we can. We walk around the house with a huge laundry basket and collect everything that got moved throughout the day and put it in it’s right place. We also will wipe down stuff when brushing out teeth, cooking etc. and on the weekends we tackle the bigger projects like the garden. No kids but when we do, we’ll definitely need the help!