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Thats how it is, thats why helping people really is a sacrifice in a way, don't help someone thinking they will return the favor. Rarely happens
I’ve also found that I’m usually incredibly grateful when someone helps me out because I don’t expect it, but I don’t receive that kind of response from others when I help them. Maybe others expect people to always help them out so it’s not a big deal.
Yes, true friendship is very rare in the modern world. Friends that volunteer to help you without you asking are extremely rare. Most marriages aren't even that tight.
I have a few friends that are mostly on that true friendship level with me. But who knows. We all do tend to help each other on occasion when needed. But who knows how real and true anyone is. I know I've disappointed people before plenty of times.
I can tell you this: politically I'm a leftist. I would normally equate my political beliefs with ethics. I don't understand how an ethical person can hold political beliefs different from mine. It's hard for me to grasp the concept. But... none of my good friends think like me politically. Each of us is completely different from each other. It makes me wonder how many people have canceled their friends or people who could have been good friends over politics.
I can also tell you that some of the worst people I've ever had to work for were die hard Democrats. They were complete assholes, liars, scumbags, and back stabbers. But they said all the right things for me about being against the Iraq war. Some of my best bosses have been Republicans. They were honest, decent, and generous. The opposite is also true. I know some complete asshole neo nazi types that were my republican bosses.
There are books and articles about this written by some smart people. In modern society, exasperated by social media, it's so easy to filter out anyone you don't want to interact with. You can passively and casually cancel anyone out of your life. What are we missing out on? Everyone is living in a self inflicted bubble and echo chamber.
It's very difficult and time consuming to make new true friends. It's an inch by inch process that takes years. Many people don't make that investment, which is expensive and could potentially not plan out.
I don't know what to do to expand my friendships. The few good friends that I mentioned before would likely not get along with some of my newer friends. So I can't introduce them to each other. They would cancel each other out and maybe me. One of my best friends who I've known for 25 years is a college mathematics professor. That's too much nerd for my other friends. Keeping my friends and family compartmentalized is frustrating. But I value and want to keep them all. They will all eventually meet and chat at my funeral maybe.