NY Divorced Fish: Did you pay/receive spousal support?

Curious how the courts typically deal with spousal support these days when there are no kids involved and both parties have jobs, good education, and are in their mid/late 30s?

We’ve done a good job being civil about everything but I make $180k and ex makes $70k so there is an income difference (married 8 years).

We’ll both also walk away with around $225k each in cash/retirement savings.

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You make more than double? Be prepared to pay alimony, especially if you are a male.

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